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Post by Lin on May 2, 2004 6:30:15 GMT -5
WHEW! I survived a sassyworm virus attack and a spyware infiltration! Just had to do a total restore and now have to put things back like I had them. i HOPE to have the ACOA meeting tonight.
The topic is CRISES. I hope to see you there! 8 PM eastern, 7 central and 5 pacific.
LIN
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Post by Caressa2 on May 3, 2004 7:09:55 GMT -5
Dear Lin,
During my meditation last ngiht, I realized that I was wrong in my timing when I shared my story.
My friend and I went through Mary Ellis Treatment Facilities and we graduated in December 13, 1991. I went to my first Al-Anon Meeting on December 16, 1991.
Our friendship started when I told her to shut up, if she didn't have anything worthwhile to say, then be quiet and quit interrupting others. Great coming from a big mouth like me! Back then I was introverted and very quiet although that may seem hard to believe. But I was being Ms. Caretaker, because all the other girls came to me and complained about her excessive talking and asked me to speak to her. From then on we because close friends, I shared my first fourth and fifth with her. We volunteered in the kitchen baking and cooking for the girls after we graduated.
When I had one month shy of my second year clean and sober my friend found a house for $400. plus heat and hydro and asked me to share it with her. I lived with her for seven months. As she stayed sober, my friend started to have body memories and flash backs of her childhood abuse. The story I related I realized happened when I was still with her, not after I moved out. There were similiar incidents that happened and she would call me to rescuer her after she had over dosed or slashed her wrists, and thanks to the program of Al-Anon I was able to detach and move out of the house, but it took me another six months to detach from her as a person. I could no longer enable her.
Even in today I don't keep constant contact, but we still maintain a connection. She was three year sober the last time I talked to her. She recently was in the hospital because of paralysis in her legs, I did not go see her but I phoned her. She is now able to get around with a walker. God is a great healer.
We both suffered sever trauma from the time we were a year old. I tended to put mine aside because hers seemed so much worse than mine. The anger that I have been experiencing lately is from past issues. Feelings that are just coming up now, anger I knew was there but never felt until I quit smoking five years ago. Thankfully, because of this program I can let it go in a healthy way. I have never had to relapse although I have hit several bottoms in recovery, spiritual and emotional.
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Post by majestyjo on May 3, 2020 3:34:42 GMT -5
The nice thing is that we are still close friends. This November 3 will make it 29 years since we walked through the doors of recovery and we are both sober.
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. I will be back looking for Lin and others.