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Post by bunnypie on Sept 10, 2016 1:22:59 GMT -5
I am greedy about wanting to get my health & my hair back! I despondent & depressed living with cancer and all the side effects. I try to be generous with my time & money but can only do so much. I have telemarketers on the phone all the time begging for donations. I tell them that they should start a drive for me because of my situation and usually they hang up on me instead of the other way around!!!  ------Bunnypie |
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Post by Lin on Sept 10, 2016 5:45:44 GMT -5
Telemarketers can be so annoying. Now I often see the caller ID that it says a local cell number or even my own house number but it's a recording from card holder services or soemth8ign like that. I hang up. If ti's a human I ask them to add me to their do not call list then i hang up.
Greed or generosity? I am much more on the generosity side of this one. I do what I can for others. Real often I pay for somebody's items at Wal mart. I ALMOSt did yesterday. A lady in front of me had several items in her cart. She had a paid of children's shoes and a box of cookies left to scan. She told the lady to put the shoes and cookies back. Immediately I thought about offering to pay for all of her purchases including the two she was putting back. BUT she asked the lady to give her a pack of cigarettes. Then I was glad I had not. I dont understand how you can buy cigarettes for yourself but not cookies and shoes for your child.
LIN
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Post by bunnypie on Sept 10, 2016 6:24:23 GMT -5
Oh Lin---It is called greed & addiction! Cigarettes are an addiction just like booze & drugs! Her addiction came before her kids shoes and cookies! I can understand it but like you I don't think it is right to let her kids go without shoes because of it! You were absolutely right to not enable her addiction. You are working a wonderful Alanon program! Thanks for stopping by and being generous with your time!-----Bunnypie |
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Post by majestyjo on Sept 10, 2016 12:30:06 GMT -5
I think there is a saying, "Generous without a fault." That is you Lin. When we all left EoR, you were here for us when we came back. For that I am grateful.
Don't have money, so most of what I can give is time and attention. I always figured if you can feed one, you can feed two.
When I get a telemarketer, I like to hang up after I pick up, so they don't leave a message and I often tell them, "Charity begins at home." Once they know you don't have money because you are on pension or disability or don't own a home, they are not interested, they hang up on you."
As I have shared many times, "If I get needy, I get greedy." I need to remember to fill up mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and physically. My drug of choice has always been more, so when I find myself reaching out for more, I have to ask myself, are you full or do you need topping up or are you stuffing.
It is hard for me with food. I think it is human nature, and it could just be my disease, but when I am told I can't have, that is when I want it. I hardly ever ate cookies or ice cream prior to being diagnosed. I buy ice cream and it takes me at least a week to eat it, but it isn't good for diabetes. When I make cookies, I eat them fresh off the pan and I want my share before my son eats them all. I don't bake or make chocolate pudding unless it is at his request. I can't say "No!" very often. He did ask Thursday night, but I told him my ankles and feet were to sore to make it. I didn't play the martyr.
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Post by bunnypie on Sept 10, 2016 16:00:46 GMT -5
I have signed up for the Do Not Call List of telemarketers but I still get calls anyway....
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------Bunnypie
. I will be back looking for Lin and others.