Adopting Roles

[majestyjo]

~ MORNING LIGHT ~ (Meditations to Begin Your Day) 

Happy or unhappy, families are all mysterious.

~ Gloria Steinem 


Children often adopt roles to help them cope within a dysfunctional family. You may identify with these roles.

• Hero. Your role was making everyone in the family look good. Your struggles today are with your need for perfection and learning how to face conflict.

• Mascot. Your role was to make light of the bad situation in your home. Your struggles today are dealing with anger and resentment, and understanding the difference between humor and sarcasm.

• Lost Child. Your role was maintaining silence and staying out of everyone’s way. This timidity is something you need to learn how to overcome today so you can find your voice, express your feelings, and take risks.

• Scapegoat. Your role was to act out in ways that created distraction from the addict and family problems. More often than not your actions resulted in punishment and abuse. You need to come to terms with childhood abuse and the consequences of rebellious actions.

• Caretaker. Your role was to try to make everyone happy. Your struggles today are learning how to balance taking care of others with developing the ability to focus on yourself.

I will shed my childhood role so I can become who I need and want to be.

So glad that it is OK to be me and I don't have to go there in today.

[majestyjo]

Often wondered why I go back to old posts, other than the fact that the words then, are still valid in today, is because every time I copy a reading or piece of prose, I have to reformat it.

Some of them are not bad, but some of the long ones can try my patience, especially, if I haven't had enough sleep or I am hungry and tell myself, I'll just post one more. I do believe that is the addict in me. Searching for something, outside of myself to make me feel better. Often, not accepting of what we see or hear and going on to the next to find something that gives us the answer we want to hear.

Some of the pictures today, may not fit the text, but I am finding the nostalgic cards very spiritual in nature, and I have posted them, just because I like them and want to share them with you.

[majestyjo]

So glad I don't have to role play any more. It is okay to be me.