Sunday topic - Feelings

[Lin]

The topic I picked for tonight's ACOA meeting is FEELINGS. I hope you can join us.

8 PM eastern, 7 central and 5 pacific.

LIN

[majestyjo]

Feelings is always a great topic. Too bad people didn't share on the topic on the site, before or after the meeting.

As you all have heard me say, and are probably tired of hearing me say, "Just because you have a feeling, doesn't mean you have to act on it."

Feelings I think are personal. I think my biggest problem was putting a name to a feeling because I stuffed them for so many years. Most of them were labelled "Fear!" In reality, under the fear was a lot of rejection, abandonment, hurt, sadness, anger, and the list could go on and on.

I was just sharing yesterday with a friend about my first journal. The social worker at the YWCA, got me writing and every time she read my daily journalling, she would circle a feeling with a red pen. At the beginning, they were few and far between and some pages and none mentioned at all. It was really sad when I looked back on it. I am so grateful for the program and the healing it affords. I think that is the right word. It is a long time since I went to school and my English is out of date.

This is what I plan to do if I can find the way off my computer. I had to give myself permission to have a time out, to go to bed and have a nap when I needed it. I had to admit at 74, I couldn't do what I use to do and give myself some leeway, not sure if that is spelled right. I do need to eat though, my KFC is calling to me.

[majestyjo]

Feelings are why we used. We were hurt, lonely, sad, happy, fearful, etc.

Instead of reaching out to our sponsor or close friend, we reach for that something outside of ourselves to give us false courage and perception.