making decisions

[Lin]

Growing up i was constantly told i was worthless...and could not follow directions...could not make a decision that was worth a dime. So i heard it enough I believed it.

Later in years I learned from teaches and freinds that i COULD make decisions and choices...but I was still leary. Now, after almsot 13 years off recovery,. I KNOW i can make good choices. I can make decisions without stressing over them. I dont have to worry that the plate police will come and take me away if I choose the wrong plate for my lunch.

I got here by making small choices that were needed and stopping to congratulate myself on how good they were. It took time and practice, but now the BIG ones are much easier to handle.

Do you have trouble making decisions?

LIN

[lildee]

decisions......

hmmm some right now are real simple what to eat for dinner , if I am gonna do laundry today the everyday kinds of things.

but and that is a big but

somethings that are going on in my life right now do trouble me.

Decsions about money, decisions about my future, decsions about where my heart is, decsions about my kids, decsions about my home.

But for the most part many of these issues are projections into the future something to consider and store away in my tired brain. Right now just staying focused ODAT and let's see where this road leads. (Boy soon I am gonna need a road map for all of roads. LOL)))

Just gonna pray and let God lead me wherever He chooses. Look to Him for guidance and I know I will be on a good road.

Love & God Bless
lildee

[caressa]

Growing up, I heard, "Who are you to know?" Which was a source of a lot of self-doubt and insecurity. It was often followed by, "Who asked your oppinion? What makes you think it counts?" Which lead to more insecurity, low self-worth and self-esteem. When I think of it, it amazes me that I have grown as much as I have. Personal empowerment to make my own decisions and live my own life for myself, not for someone else, is a big gift for which I am grateful.

[majestyjo]

Decisions, decisions, decision ..better left up to someone more qualified to make them.

Not a very good example, made some poor ones along the way, even in recovery, when I was too impatient to wait on my God's Will.