Change

[caressa]

Change

"I find it fascinating that most people plan their vacations with better care than they plan their lives. Perhaps that is because escape is easier than change."

-- Jim Rohn

"Slowness to change usually means fear of the new."

-- Philip Crosby

“Just as the tumultuous chaos of a thunderstorm brings a nurturing rain that allows life to flourish, so too in human affairs times of advancement are preceded by times of disorder. Success comes to those who can weather the storm.”

-- I Ching No. 3

“If you want things to be different, perhaps the answer is to become different yourself.”

-- Norman Vincent Peale

Courtesy of Higher Awareness

[caressa]

Change, for me that is how recovery works. If I am not willing to change, things will remain the same.

To change, I need to be aware of myself and my surroundings. I need to admit to myself, to my God and others, the nature of my dis-ease. I need to accept what is in the moment, knowing that it is subject to change. I don't have to like it to acceptance, but I can't take meaningful action, without finding the acceptance. In order to take action, I often have to change my attitude. Other times, I need to change my attitude so I can take action. If I think I can, I won't. If I think I can, I will.

[Lin]

Sunnygirl has a favorite slogan...Nothing changes if nothing changes. I had to change my actions and attitudes before I could get better.
Change is not always the comfortable thing. We like things to stay as they are because it is what we are used to. But if I wanted my life to get better i did have to change.

One observatoin I have had over the years...sometiems when We change, those around us dont care for the changes. Sometimes They also change. But sometimes they are very much against us chainging.

Example...the "old" me woudl NEVER go to the store by myself without asking permission. Now I go when I want to. Mostly I go when he sleeps (because he sleeps WAY too much of the time) But sometimes I say..I am going to this store or that. Do you want me to pick up anything while I am out?

At first he did not like this change at all. It was like he had lost control and I had gained independence. Perhaps that's WHY he didn't liek it LOL

Another change others dont always care for is when we take up for ourselves..not allow others to use us for a doormat.

Change is necessary and msot changes make us and our lives better.
LIN

[caressa]

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Thanks for sharing Lin. So true, my son use to say he doesn't identify with me any more, but now that he has been in treatment he knows where I am coming from, but still doesn't like it. He says, Don't preach your AA stuff at me.

All we can do is be the beacon and the light that hopefully one day they will chose to follow.

[SunnyGirl]

Great shares from both of you ladies....

Lin is right, my most favorite saying is, "Nothing changes,
if nothing changes". With my addicted loved ones, I was
the go to person, the one that would clean up their mess.
I was told by my older sister that it appeared that I had
a big sign on my forehead that said, WELCOME. It was
difficult for me to change the things that I had always done,
so I kept getting what I always got. More of the same,
does not promote change.

Today, the welcome sign is not there any more and they
realize I am not their doormat. It took a lot of work and I
made a lot of mistakes, but I'd pick myself up and try again
and I am so proud of the new me. I've found that God is
a very good listener and He has taught me that it's so very
important for me to listen as well.

Merry Christmas & Happy Hanukkah

and

Peace on the journey, SG

[caressa]

Thanks for sharing SG. I often think that my God is sitting over my shoulder saying, "Tsk! Tsk! Here we go again, she didn't listen, and didn't get the message the first time.

It is getting better, my selective hearing and tunnel vision aren't so plugged and blurred now as they use to be. At least the vision ranges has a wider field and my mind isn't as closed. As they say, progress not perfection, some days are better than others.