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Post by admin on Nov 13, 2003 0:05:25 GMT -5
Dear Tiger---I was sent an email on 12 traits of a dry drunk and one of them is emotional addiction to at least one hated person ususally a spouse. I have never heard of an emotional addiction!!! I have always thought they were either physical or mental addictions..... Can you please explain what the hell an emotional addiction is?  ? Thanks!!! MISTYEVE |
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Post by admin on Nov 13, 2003 5:05:02 GMT -5
Hi Mistyeve,
I don't think to be emotionally addicted to a spouse, you have to hate them.
I believe it means one is so "obssessed" with their spouse that he or she can push all their buttons. Their "peace of mind" and "Serenity" can be unduly influenced by the smallest action or word" from their spouse.
I think the solution is to "lighten up" and realize their not perfect and neither are we
If I took everything my spouse said and does *too seriously*, I would go crazy
Tiger
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Dear Tiger====You might be on to something!!!! Obsession and addiction are real similar aren't they??? That makes sense to me and it would go along with a clinical
list of traits to look for in a dry
drunk. Thanks for your help honey!
**** you're good!!! Love & Grateful Hugs---Misty Eve
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Hi everyone.
I think emotionally addicted is emotions gone to the extreme; when your all your emotional well being is wrapped up in one person - usually your boyfriend /girlfriend or spouse but I think it could be children too. All your emotional eggs in one basket so to speak. I believe I am emotionally addicted to my boyfriend. I disagree strongly with what he is doing but still "love" him. I struggle with the difference between being in need and being in love. I still struggle with the Cinderella idea that being in love or loving someone means never being in pain (emotionally) or never feeling lonliess. I am trying to spread my love around more to my family, friends and co-workers so that when my boyfriend disappoints me I am not so devastated.
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Dear Louise----your explanation makes a lot of sense. thanks for
sharing the examle of all the "emotional eggs in one basket" I can really understand how that can
be devastating when the person disappoints you. Sincere THanks!!!
MISTYEVE
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Post by majestyjo on Jul 12, 2016 23:59:34 GMT -5
To my way of thinking, all addictions are emotional. We have an obsessive, compulsive disease and it doesn't matter what we pick up. My drug of choice was more. That applied to my relationshiips. More attention, more of what every I could get from them be it sex, attentions, presents, etc. They occupied my whole life and while I was in that relationship, they were my whole focus. I lived my life on hold and lived my life through them. That old adage, what ever makes you happy, makes me happy. I know I lost my identiy, and it was my thinking behind the drinking and other substance that I picked up, like prescription drugs (taking a pill and sitting there waiting for it to work and getting angry because it wasn't a quick fix. I too a pill you know, it is suppose to be all better), or stuffing myself with food or getting busy, especially with service so I could focus either on the alcoholic/addict instead of looking at me. People pleasing, looking for approval and validation, looking for that something outside of myself to make me feel better. I lost the desire to drink and drug early in recovery, but I have to work on my emotional sobriety, one day at a time.  |
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