Expectations exceed reality

[caressa222]

You are reading from the book Each Day a New Beginning.


Our friends were not unearthly beautiful, Nor spoke with tongues of gold; our lovers blundered now and again when we most sought perfection . . . --Adrienne Rich


So often our expectations exceed reality. We want more than we have; our homes, our loved ones, perhaps our jobs seem not to measure up. "If only"--we say to ourselves. The time has come to quit saying "if only" and be glad, instead, for what is.


We are recovering. We do have friends and family who care about us. We do have exactly what we need at this moment.


We each can make a contribution today for the good of someone else and thus for ourselves. And in the act of looking to this day--to giving something to another human being--we will sense the inner perfection we mistakenly long for in our outer selves.


I can look around me today and be thankful. I will tell someone close that I'm glad we share one another's world.

[majestyjo]

Expectations can be killers. I can't project my wants and desires for myself or for others on to other people. They may not be in a space to receive your message and unable to respond. We have to respect others as well as ourselves. I can't expect change if I am not willing to do the footwork.