"Muddling Through"

[Tiger]

I think I would like to explain the term "muddling through"

At the end of the movie "the days of wine and roses" Lee Remick told Jack Lemon "I can't stand these grey days"....and I knew what she meant <g>

In my drinking days everything was white or black and I also couldn't stand those "grey days"

As the sober years have gone by, I have come to the realization that this thing we call "life" consist of many In-between days ie; grey (a combination of white and blcak) and IMO the secret of long term sobriety is the ability to "muddle through" these days.

In fact, there are "good years", "bad years" and many "in-between years"

I had to learn to "muddle through" all those different shades of "life" being aware that reality lies somewhere in the middle between black and white, all good or all bad!

So here I am, still "muddling through" the middle, a day at a time

Tiger

[Misty]

My Very Dear Tiger----I LOVE that movie "Days of Wine & Roses" I really thought it was so accurate how they showed the woman liked chocolate a lot and laughed when he tried to give her peanut brittle. He got her a drink that tasted like
chocolate and she was instantly hooked. The movie really showed all the phases of drinking and alcoholism. The phrase muddling thru is an excellent way to explain
"maintaining" part of life. It isn't high or low it is just hanging in there. Thanks so much for reminding me of this GREAT idea
honey!!! Love & Hugs----Mistyeve

[majestyjo]

I remember sharing with a guy from NA and he said that he didn't like gray days. I told him that I found that a gift of recovery was learning that there were shades of gray and everything wasn't about being black and white.

No more, if, ands, or buts, either/or, should/should have, etc. and their are boundaries, detachment, clarity, compromise, honesty, seeing things as they are, not as we would have them be, I think it is called denial.

Things can become clear, I pray daily for clarity and introspection. I ask that my perception be healed and ask for MY inner knowing.

There may be gray areas in our life, but when we bring them out of the darkness into the light, we can heal and learn to deal with life on life's terms.