Post by Caressa2 on May 12, 2004 4:02:53 GMT -5
I wish I'd a knowed more people, I would of loved 'em all. If I'd a knowed more, I woulda loved more.
- Toni Morrison
We all have an infinite capacity for loving. Sometimes we get confused about loving, and we start thinking that we only have so much to go around. We start thinking in zero-sum terms. We believe that we only have so much love and if we give some away, we have that much less. We start parceling out our love like we pay the bills at the end of the month. We meet all of our "love obligations," and we try to keep a little bit in savings, just in case of an emergency.
Controlled love is not loving. Obligatory love is not loving. Love is something that flows out of our deep sense of loving ourselves. It is not posible to love another if we don't know and love ourselves.
When we love ourselves, there is no limit to the amount of love we can share. But loving can never be manufactured because we should, need to, or want to get something in return. Love is an energy that is shared because we have it.
Loving the people I know allows me to know the people I love.
THOUGHT FOR TODAY:
This is a good and much needed reading for me today. Because of my illness the last few months, I haven't had a lot of self love and I realize that it has been the cause of some self-doubts and lack of trust in my life.
When I did a Step Six and Seven recently I prayed and asked that I may come from a place of a loving heart and to be open to receiving and a willingness to let go of the old to make room for the new. A loving heart which is forgiving of myself and others.
. I will be back looking for Lin and others.