Post by Caressa2 on May 14, 2004 10:46:47 GMT -5
If you believe you are to blame for everything that goes wrong, you are going to stay until you fix it.
- Susan Forward
We women who do too much are responsible. That is one of our great virtues, or so we think. We are willing to take accountabiality and blame for everything. When something happens at work, it must be our fault. If our relationships fail, we must have done something wrong. If our children have difficulties, we are to blame. Guilt and blame are old familiar friends. It is inconceivable to us that we did not cause...whatever. This is one form of our self-centeredness. We put ourselves right sqarely in the middle of any disaster. Of ocurse, the other side of the dualism is to be totally blameless and a victim. We bounce back and forth between the two.
What a difference it is to move into responsability, a place where accountability and blame have no meaning and our ability to respond is the key.
My ability to respond is hampered by accountability and blame.
THOUGHT FOR TODAY:
How I do identify with this. All my life I was told I was responsible, and I took on so many things that were not mine to take on, were none of my business, were not my responsibility and yet I was the victim of so many incidents.
It is like posting here on this board. I can identify where ever I go. I can find a spiritual concept and teaching no matter what section I go into. It isn't my responsibility, but when I can identify, I share because I care. The program teaches me to be open minded, and if I keep it closed then I would miss out on a lot of teachings. So much here is good material, that I can take what I need and leave the rest, but there never seems to be too much left over when all is said and done. It is all spiritual food and good for my soul.
- Susan Forward
We women who do too much are responsible. That is one of our great virtues, or so we think. We are willing to take accountabiality and blame for everything. When something happens at work, it must be our fault. If our relationships fail, we must have done something wrong. If our children have difficulties, we are to blame. Guilt and blame are old familiar friends. It is inconceivable to us that we did not cause...whatever. This is one form of our self-centeredness. We put ourselves right sqarely in the middle of any disaster. Of ocurse, the other side of the dualism is to be totally blameless and a victim. We bounce back and forth between the two.
What a difference it is to move into responsability, a place where accountability and blame have no meaning and our ability to respond is the key.
My ability to respond is hampered by accountability and blame.
THOUGHT FOR TODAY:
How I do identify with this. All my life I was told I was responsible, and I took on so many things that were not mine to take on, were none of my business, were not my responsibility and yet I was the victim of so many incidents.
It is like posting here on this board. I can identify where ever I go. I can find a spiritual concept and teaching no matter what section I go into. It isn't my responsibility, but when I can identify, I share because I care. The program teaches me to be open minded, and if I keep it closed then I would miss out on a lot of teachings. So much here is good material, that I can take what I need and leave the rest, but there never seems to be too much left over when all is said and done. It is all spiritual food and good for my soul.
. I will be back looking for Lin and others.