A Life of My Own - Passing judgment- 7/17

[lildee]

"Passing judgment on someone else is self-defeating."

What do we gain when we sit in judgement of someone else? A brief moment of feeling superior ? But working your programs you should have realized that superiority is our problem. Needing to feel supreme. Shame for our feelings is soon replaced with a lower spirit and lower self - esteem.

Being judgemental may have been an old habit or it just may happen. Regardless of how it happens it is a pattern of thinking that we can control . It may be difficult at first to try to be non - judgemental , if you find this the case then fake it. Don't say anything. Soon you will find that you can replace all of your judgemental thoughts with loving kind expessions. And in turn we will feel better about ourselves.

Two big tip offs for me are when I utter the words "You should"..... or " Why don't you...." Both of these tell me to mind my own business and that I am treading on dangerous waters. Zip it or drown.

How are you doing with being judgemental? Are you still stuck needing to feel superior?

[Lin]

I have this little book and love it! There is a part of this reading that says one of our goals has been to feel better about ourselves. If i pass judgement on others it makes me feel superior and makes them feel like crap. I dont want to do that to fel good about myself today. Today I have tons of recovery tools that can help me feel good about myself and my life that don't involve judging others.

LIN

[SaraLee]

Oh dear, just today I was going over some old business in my head that concerns an old friend...no longer a friend...who decided to become the leader of a spiritual group that originally was formed on the premise that no one was the leader and all served and received under the same umbrella. I've had so many bad feelings about this person who took it upon herself to be the top dog in our little organization and the only thing these negative feelings have caused me is pain. I no longer attend the group and that should be sufficient for me to have cut ties, but so often I find these negative thoughts coming back and haunting me, so much so that I even have make believe conversations with her where I tell her off.

I certainly have passed judgment and sentencing on her, even thought the sentencing is all in my own head, and I'm wondering if all this judgmental stuff I'm doing is based more on what I did NOT do rather than what she did do! I know I should have left that organization years before I did. Perhaps I'm madder at myself than I am at her, but she has been my target for judgment and d**nation. That's my food for thought for today.

SaraLee