Directness

[caressa]

Today's thought is:
Directness

So much of our communication can reflect our need to control. We say what we think others want to hear. We try to keep others from getting angry, feeling afraid, going away, or disliking us. But our need to control traps us into feeling like victims and martyrs.

Freedom is just a few words away. Those words are our truths. We can say what we need to say. We can gently, but assertively, speak our mind.

Let go of your need to control. We do not need to be judgmental, tactless, blaming, or cruel when we speak our truths. Neither do we need to hide our light. Let go, and freely be who you are.

Today, I will be honest with others, and myself knowing that if I don't, my truth will come out some other way.


You are reading from the book:

The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie

Last night I watched the new talent show on CMT and a girl said, "What you see is what you get!" My thought was, "That's my line!" I am so glad I don't have to pretend in today. It is good to be able to be me, even though some days, that me is not always balanced and as centered as she would like to be.

Today I am going for an appointment with ODSP to see about going back to school. As long as I am open, honest and direct as to what I want from them, things will turn out as they are meant to be.

[lildee]

Fear for me is what usually discourages me from saying what is on my mind. Fear that I will hurt someone. So rather than do that I keep my mouth shut. Assertiveness is not one of my better qualities. But as bad as I am with it, saying my peace is getting better via the Program. It is giving me the strength to at least attempt to get the words out. Even if I stumble and trip all over myself. For now it is more than I could do before the Program. Time and practice and the hand of God guiding me will get me through.

Good luck today at ODSP. I hope it goes well for you, and you get everything you need.

Love & God Bless
Arlene

[caressa]

Thank you my friend. It is good that I didn't write in a big senerio into it all. All I did was sign papers although it was nice to know it was confirmed that I was accepted for assistance. I have an appointment on the 8th as a follow-up with a place called Emplyment Ljnks and then a program will be developed to meet my needs to accomplish my goal. I am quite excited about it, also very accepting. It could be 3-6 months before I get into school itself, so I don't have to worry about holding my breathe.

[lildee]

Excellent news my friend !!!! ;D ;D ;D

[dg]

Hey Caressa thats great news.
Good luck on your new adventure!!

[~graced~]

Aww....too cool, Caressa!

Congratulations on the adventures you're about to embark on!

[Baritone]

That reading really resonated with me. Before coming into recovery I was always afraid of what others would think of me if i said things that they might not want to hear. I've come to realize that i have hurt people more in my efforts to avoid confrontation, than i ever did by overtly hurtful actions.

- Jim