Post by caressa on Nov 17, 2007 13:34:45 GMT -5
Thank you for sharing. One of the suggested rules in recovery is not to get into a relationship the first year of recovery. It is necessary to focus on ourselves and give us time to heal. I am a recovering addict. All my life I looked for something outside of myself to make me feel better. Relationships were just as much a drug as pills and alcohol. I wanted loved because I didn't love myself. I wanted the other person to make me feel better. I used people, places and things for many years.
May I suggest Al-Anon or Nar-Anon if you have the fellowships in your area. It helped me because I was the daughter of an alcoholic and a food addict, I was married to an alcoholic, and my son is a self-admitted addict. I had to learn that I couldn't help my son. He had to want recovery for himself. I was affected by addiction growing up. I am a firm believer we are products of our environment. While your love is doing his thing, perhaps you can look at yourself and see what you need to change within yourself to get over any obsessions and pain in your own life.
It takes another addict to know another addict. I suggest you look over the material on the site and perhaps you can come to a new understanding.
May I suggest Al-Anon or Nar-Anon if you have the fellowships in your area. It helped me because I was the daughter of an alcoholic and a food addict, I was married to an alcoholic, and my son is a self-admitted addict. I had to learn that I couldn't help my son. He had to want recovery for himself. I was affected by addiction growing up. I am a firm believer we are products of our environment. While your love is doing his thing, perhaps you can look at yourself and see what you need to change within yourself to get over any obsessions and pain in your own life.
It takes another addict to know another addict. I suggest you look over the material on the site and perhaps you can come to a new understanding.
. I will be back looking for Lin and others.