Sunday chip thoughtful/self-pitying

[Lin]

Still no Misty. Be well MISTY!

I pulled the chip thoughtful or self-pitying.

I sure can be into the self-pity mode if I am not careful. Feeling sorry for myself is not hard to do. I ahve alot of dissapointments in my life and to feel self pity is normal. I jsut dont like to go there. Example. My boss is on a trip for a wek. He has to leave another peson in charge. All they years I worked with him, he never left me in charge. I have one more year than he does. I have 4 more years than the person he has left in charge. Last year I had 10 more years than the one he left in charge, but that person was a man, so i could understand. (and the man used to be a principal at one time.) But this year this person is a person he has only worked with 4 months and he put her in charge. I could look at that and feel sorry for myself that he does nto have enough confidence in me. Or i could look at it and think to myself that he sees something in her he does nto see in me and then work to be a better person. Or i can remember some of my past actions that may have led him to take my name out of the running. LOL ( like the way I reacted when he told me I'd be out back in a trailer this year) I can also find gratitude in the fact i'm NOT in charge of decisions and problems while he is gone. he asked me to be in charge ofunloading the fundraiser chocolate with my kids on wednesday when it comes and to be in charge of setting up and cleanign up (sacristan) at church on Thursday. So i can remind myself the two things he DID ask me to be in charge of are easy..not stressful. and the other part may be very stressful. I got the easier "job". lol

Being thoughtful of others is the way I hope others see me. I call and check on friends who ahve been ill. I send cards to remember birthdays. I try to think of others feelings before I speak or act.

Are you thoughtful or self -pitying?

LIN

[caressa]

Thanks for sharing Lin. I tend to laugh at myself when I find myself into self-pity. I do know that I am often in a place as a result of decision s made in the past, be it immediate or long ago.

It generally means I have lost my gratitude, and I have to think about what it use to be like and what is like today. There is generally no comparison.

When I give life a thought, it is generally good, certainly better than it was when I came into recovery.

[Misty]

Dear Lin------Thanks again for stepping up to the plate an helping out with the chip of the day. John
has a frozen messed up computer on his hands an I sure felt bad leaving him today. I have my own stuff to take care of like laundry and housework. I like to try to have part of` Sunday for a nap and to just recharge the batteries. I
think your boss might be trying to insult you but don't you give him the pleasure!!! The program says to put principals above personalities but in this case maybe you need to put princlple above principals!!! LOL Thanks again HOney for all your help!!!
Love & Hugs---Mistyeve

[majestyjo]

As I read this Lin, I wonder if he felt threatened by you. He didn't want to allow anyone to see that you could do it.

You are a very giving person and always seem to look at what you can do to pay it forward.

[bunnypie]

The actual chip is self pity/self forgetful. I was getting waves of self pity that could be compared to the ocean bringing in waves. My computer is finally in good shape and I am forgetting about the problems and getting to use it to catch up on posts. LOL I'm Baccck!!!!---Bunnypie