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Post by Misty on Jan 11, 2005 21:31:44 GMT -5
A sponsor in my early days of sobriety told me self pity was very dangerous. She gave the example of
POOR ME POOR ME POUR ME A DRINK!
Her example really hit home for me and I try to forget about myself and that seems to keep the self pity away. Do you have self pity or are you self forgetful? Please let me know! Thanks----Mistyeve
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Post by johnl on Jan 11, 2005 23:15:19 GMT -5
Self pity is very dangerous for me ,if I get in a funk and start feeling that way I have to pull my self out of it,either going to a meeting,picking up the phone or getting out of the house.When I think of poor me I needto think how gratefull I am for what I have.
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Post by Misty on Jan 12, 2005 1:56:38 GMT -5
Dear John---You reminded me of some
thing I heard early on in program.
WANT WHAT YA HAVE DON'T ALWAYS HAVE TO HAVE WHAT YA WANT. If I can be
satisfied with my life then it does
chase away the self pity. Thanks
for stopping by!-----Mistyeve
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Post by Lin on Jan 12, 2005 5:40:02 GMT -5
I sat by not long ago and helplessly watched my husband sink into a depression. Alot of it was self pity becacuse he felt useless. he is not allowed to work and has worked all his life. He does not ahve any hobbies and the more he felt sorry for himself. the more depressed he got. he ended up in a 6 month relapse after 3 1/2 years sober. So that poor me, poor me, pour me a drink is TRUE.
I try to be thoughtful of my self as well as of others and it sure keeps me out of the self-pity. helping less fortunate also does. Try helping out at a helpless shelter, a spouse abuse center, or a nursing home. WOW...you learn you really dont ahve it so tough. gratitude can jerk me out of a slip into self-pity QUICKLY!
LIN
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Post by Misty on Jan 12, 2005 8:59:01 GMT -5
My Very Dear Lin---I never thought about how awful it is for people to witness a slide into depression. I
have always been the one it is happening to not the witness. Wow!
I guess either way is miserable....
My sponsor says that gratitude is a
action word. I can't just feel it I have to show it. So glad you could stop by today! Please give your dogs a pet for me. Thanks!
Mistyeve
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Post by caressa on Jan 12, 2005 9:14:00 GMT -5
This is always something most of us need to be careful of because alcohol is a depressant. Being down is a normal feeling for us and we are not aware that it is a danger zone and part of our disease. When I compare instead of indentifying, I can get myself into the poor mes, I need to focus on what I have instead of what I don't have. When I do, the I wants don't seem so big and I find more acceptance of what is. Have a good day. Here is a bunny angel for you Misty. www.castlemountains.net/index.cfm?action=oneclick&scid=4695745 |
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Post by jimmy62 on Jan 12, 2005 20:27:38 GMT -5
Dear Misty Eve!! I have been feeling really ill for sometime now and just in the last few days I feeling my old self again. Just by thinking of how I used to be and not that awful feeling that im too sick and can't do what I used to do and never even thinking about going for a walk or just being happy about what I have instead of what others have and I have not. I know that it's not who has more toys at the end that makes a person a winner!! LOve&HUgs Jimmy6  |
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Post by Misty on Jan 12, 2005 23:03:46 GMT -5
Dear Caressa---I like what you said about identifying and NOT comparing. That is a real logical way to keep self pity away. Thanks
for stopping by!----Mistyeve
Dear Jimmy---Physical illness can put me into self pity faster then any thing! I have lived on one nostril for weeks now and it sucks!
Hope you will continue to feel better and please keep coming back!
Love & Hugs------Mistyeve
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. I will be back looking for Lin and others.