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Post by Misty on Jan 27, 2005 21:48:11 GMT -5
I have no trouble accepting the fact that it is finally Friday. This has been a long week and I am glad to see it ending. I have resignation more then I do acceptance lately and I think they are just about the same thing but not quite. Do you have acceptance or defiance? Please let me know!
Thanks!----Mistyeve
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Post by johnl on Jan 27, 2005 23:19:36 GMT -5
I have no problem accepting the fact its friday either.I have acceptance and the willingness to change the things I can.
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Post by knothead on Jan 28, 2005 0:26:28 GMT -5
Ahhh . . . .
Acceptance is the key to my recovery today!!! It unlocks the door to "the road of happy destiny!!!"
Defiance is "self-will run riot" and is part of my former diseased way of thinking. As such, I will not give defiance the chance to pollute my mind today.
However much I am able to accept things as they are at any given moment, is generally how much peace & serenity I have right then.
All of that said, acceptance doesn't mean that I should be lazy to those things that I can & should do something about in my own life (working the steps, for example).
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Post by Misty on Jan 28, 2005 1:27:52 GMT -5
Dear John---The Serenity prayer is a great tool to figure out if you have acceptance or not. Thanks for
stopping by!----Mistyeve
Hey Knot Head----I like how you said that defiance pollutes your brain!!! What a graphic way to put it!!! Thanks for stoppin by!
Mistyeve
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Post by Lin on Jan 28, 2005 5:43:07 GMT -5
I had a very hard time understanding acceptance when I first came in. For some reason I thought it meant i had to LIKE it or approve of it or condone it. Not so. I jsut have to stop trying to change it. I have to jsut get it in my thick skull that THIS is the way it is and I may as well move on and make the best of the situation.
today acceptance is a tool I use in every area of my life. I accept that the weather might change some plans...no need to pout and gripe, i sure cant change it. JSut ahve a plan B ready!
I use acceptance to the fact my husband is home all the time due to disabilities. I used to look forward to even 30 minutes when our jobs overlapped and i ahd some time to myself. I cant change it, so no need to get on the pity pot about it.
I ahve larned to accept that people around me are not always in recovery. they dont always look at the birghter side of life. They dont always try to do what is best for a whole group. They dont always do things the way I woudl do them. Accept and move on. Do my part and let them live and let live.
Very much acceptance part of this chip. it helps em keep my serenity.
LIN
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Post by Misty on Jan 28, 2005 8:51:12 GMT -5
Dear Lin----Thanks for the great examples of acceptance. I still say that resignation and acceptance
are very close (they could be twin
brothers) Thanks for stopping by to
talk about this chip----Mistyeve
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Post by lildee on Jan 28, 2005 9:27:18 GMT -5
Good Morning Mistyeve,
The biggest thing I had to learn about acceptance is that I am not in control. "What me not in charge?" Once I learned to accept this, recovery began. No acceptance doesn't mean that I have to like or love everything, it means either I change it (if possible) or have the willingness to accept this is the way it is , and get on with life.
Acceptance does not mean that you have to be treated like a doormat. There are boundaries and tools within the program to help deal with those issues.
Another big issue was accepting God. Or should I say a new version of Him found in HP. Accepting the idea that there could actually be a different version than the one that was ingrained into my head after so many years was difficult. But I am greatful that I perservered to find the HP of my choosing, to guide me along this road of recovery.
Love & God Bless
Arlene
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Post by caressa on Jan 28, 2005 14:17:05 GMT -5
Acceptance is a big thing in many areas of my life. Accepting my dis-ease, myself in the moment, my family and friends for where they are at in the moment, and accepting that God doesn't think the way I do.
Accepting that "It is a good thing He doesn't!", instead of defying God and changing my won't power into willingness. I defied God for many years, don't tell me, "Watch me!"
I am glad I don't have to live that way anymore. I can't disobey and shut Him out and have faith and trust too.
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. I will be back looking for Lin and others.