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Post by Misty on Jan 31, 2005 19:24:39 GMT -5
I have been trying to ignore the fact that I have a cold that just won't go away. I have NOT been honest with myself and have been saying "oh it's not that bad" It is that bad and I have to be honest and go to the Dr no matter how much I don't want to. Are you honest???
Please let me know! Thanks-Mistyeve
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Post by johnl on Jan 31, 2005 23:12:27 GMT -5
When I was drinking I was not honest with myself that I had a drinking problem. When sober I have not been honest with myself either on health issues thinking if I ignore the problem it would go away.The program is about honesty and I started the process when I did my fourth step getting honest with myself then again in the 5th step getting honest with God,myself and another human being. I also need to be honest with myself when I review my day with my 10 th step looking at who I may have wronged and who I owe apologies to.
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Post by caressa on Jan 31, 2005 23:37:48 GMT -5
Honesty is the spiritual principles of the first step. Self-honesty has always been the most difficult part of recovery for me. Guess that is why each day I have to do the 1-2-3- Waltz which allows me to get out of the way, and let God lead and direct my life.
If I can't be honest, I stay sick.
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Post by Misty on Feb 1, 2005 3:07:42 GMT -5
Dear John----The steps you mentioned (4-5-&10) sure do require honesty but I think the first step
especially the first 2 words are the REAL honesty requirements. I've
got to admit....Today I have to admit that I need to go to a DR and see what the hell is goin on with this endless cold. Thanks for stopping by!----Mistyeve
Dear Caressa---I have always liked the short version of the first 3 steps---I CAN'T--GOD CAN---LET HIM!
Thanks for stopping by----Mistyeve
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Post by Lin on Feb 1, 2005 5:17:36 GMT -5
before recovery I was very dishonest with MYSELF. That in turn made it difficult to be honest with others. I tended to allow others to treat me like a doormat. I would not tell them if what they said had hurt my feelings. I did not tell others what I wanted or didnt want. I let them take advantage of my nature.
If i dont like something, i tell the person.
A few years ago i had to have my wisdom teeth pulled. I dont do pain. I was talking about having to take pain pills when it happened. One of my freinds said to me..IT'S A GOOD THING YOU NEVER HAD KIDS THEN IF YOU ARE SUCH A PAIN WIMP. It hurt my feelings. It was as if i had no kids by choice. I told her it hurt my feelings. Tht i had badly wantd to ahve children and 2 tubal pregnancies and 6 miscarriages ,,,then a hysterectomy at 28 made it impossible. She was upset at first that I told her I was hurt. It was as if i should allow her to hurt my feelings. But a few days later she apologized and told me she had no idea why i never had kids and she should nto ahve said it. If i had not been honest, I would probably still be hearing cracks from her about me having no kids.
Today i have found a balance. I wont be a doormat, but i WILL be kind and helpful...do my part. Honesty is a big part of the program. I had to get honest with myself and then with others and with my HP.
LIN
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Post by lildee on Feb 1, 2005 6:36:11 GMT -5
Good Morning Mistyeve,
Honesty vs. Dishonesty
Yep , I am honest. Mainly because of all the lies that I've heard in my lifetime. And if I can't be honest because it would hurt someone's feelings, I keep my mouth shut and leave it alone. And I pray that God will deal with it.
Basically I butt out, even though the urge to fix the situation is there. A gift from doing Step 9..... "Made direct amends to such people whenever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others."
Love & God Bless
Arlene
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Post by Misty on Feb 1, 2005 7:32:59 GMT -5
Dear Lin----You are a very brave lady. You faced and confronted a
person who hit a real nerve with you and got the situation resolved.
I was never able to have kids cuz of medical problems. I don't really like people to ask me why. I
had a lot of that in job interviews. It was always difficult
to be honest but NOT rude. I wanted to say none of your freaking business!!! Thanks for stopping by
today and talking about this chip.
Love & Hugs----Mistyeve
Dear Arlene----I know what ya mean
with the put up and shut up kind of solution. It can be the best answer sometimes but it is also real hard to practice too!!! Thanks for stoppin by Honey! Good to hear from you----Mistyeve
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Post by jimmy62 on Feb 1, 2005 7:46:32 GMT -5
Dear Misty Eve!! I am trying to stop smoking and I promised myself I would stop today ...I can use the AA program to stop plus my Mom called to give me some incuragment >(spelling) ...anyway I have to be honest there is one left in my pack and that will be it. I am over weight by 100lbs and I don't want to gain anymore thats why I have been so afraid to quite but I know I will be healthier if I stop smoking. If anyone can help I sure would welcome it!!! Have another good 24 hours everybody!! LOve&HUgs Jimmy6  |
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Post by Misty on Feb 1, 2005 8:05:11 GMT -5
My Very Dear Jimmy---I quit smoking
almost 3 years ago and it was the hardest thing I ever did. I was even harder then NOT drinking and using. I would suggest medical help like the patch and the pill. I have also heard of people getting
hypnotized and theres that chinese needle thing but that sounds like it could be painful. Good luck to ya Honey! You are in my thoughts and prayers!!! ------Mistyeve
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. I will be back looking for Lin and others.