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Post by Misty on Mar 1, 2005 19:52:37 GMT -5
I have a difficult time with people that are stubborn cuz I am stubborn
too and it is like 2 rams clashing
horns. I try to be willing and I pray to be willing to be willing...
Are you stubborn or willing? Please
let me know! Thanks----Mistyeve
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Post by johnl on Mar 1, 2005 23:07:16 GMT -5
I am willing and I pray to remain willing,because when I am not I feel I can run my own show. When I am in the drivers seat trouble results.So I remain willing to turn my life over to God.
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Post by lildee on Mar 2, 2005 0:26:27 GMT -5
Morning Mistyeve, Stubborn/willing  This is my chip !!! Yep stubborn as a mule. But my stubbornness has gotten a lot better. Now I don't have to get the last word in. I have grown but still have a way to go. There is one area in particular where my stubbornness rears its ugly head. That is when I feel that my independence is being infringed upon. Whether it is using my possessions, or trying to control me via manipulation. When either of these happen I will rebel and scratch and claw my way until I am exhausted. Fortunately the Program has tamed the stubborn mule somewhat. Now at least I have the sense to say my peace and Let it Go. (even though I may not be happy about it.) In the past I would keep the squabble going for days on end. Constantly turning this one over to God. Progress , I still am not perfect !!!! LOL Love and God Bless Arlene |
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Post by Lin on Mar 2, 2005 1:59:00 GMT -5
I can see me on BOTH sides of this chip. But since recovery, I try to make the stubbornness work FOr me...like a win/win situation.
I was too stubborn to give up on a marriage to an active alkie. I never told my family how very bad things were at times because i was too stubborn to admit they might have been right. I stubbornly hung on and tolerated things I should never have tolerated and have made the marriage last 36 years.
I stubbornly have worked to keep off the weight I lsot. I worked too hard to gain it all back. This year I gained back 5 of what I lost but I am still at goal because i had gotten below my goal. I am working now to take that 5 back off. I refuse to gain back above my goal. I and willing to do what it takes to get it off and keep it off.
I am also willing to do what I have to do to maintain my recovery and my serenity. I am willing to allow my HP to be in charge of each day.
In my pre=alanon days I had times I had to prove I was right. I'd argue and cry and cary on like an idiot. today i jsut ask myself...do you want to be HAPPY or do you want to be RIGHT. Not arguing makes me happy. I am content with that.
So count me both sides of this one.
Linda
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Post by Misty on Mar 2, 2005 3:10:37 GMT -5
Dear John----The 3rd step prayer has a great line about getting out of the drivers seat and letting God
run the show. The line says:Relieve
me from the bondage of self that I may better do thy will. Thanks for
stopping by!----Mistyeve
Dear Arlene----Wow! I can sure understand how you feel. I don't like to be manipulated either. If
someone wants or needs something if
I can I will give it to them but if
they get all power happy and try to
manipulate me to have their own way well the stubborn mule comes out in full force! I work on this all the time and PROGRESS NOT PERFECTION is my slogan too! Thanks
for stopping by!----Mistyeve
Dear Lin---I've been told that any
thing worth having is worth working
for. You have worked hard to keep
your weight down and your marriage
continuing and those are wonderful
accomplishments. Do ya want to be
right or do ya want to be happy has
always stopped me in my tracks. I
want both and I want them right now
LOL Thanks for stopping by Honey!!!
Mistyeve
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Post by caressa on Mar 2, 2005 17:24:23 GMT -5
Well I was willing to get here yesterday, but the mind was willing, and the body was weak.
I am willing to go to my meeting tonight, and I stubbornly refuse to let my pain prevent me from going to my friend's two year celebration.
It is definitely a postive/negative chip. It reminds me that in all things there is a little bit of everythings, very seldome it is either/or.
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Post by ~graced~ on Mar 2, 2005 20:28:03 GMT -5
*hugs* to Caressa. I hope relief from the pain finds you soon.
As for the chip--3/4's of the way into today.....*sigh* Stubborn is winning, it would seem. And maybe not stubborn, cuz I'm still of the belief that it was the right thing to do. I heard what others were saying, validated that and still needed to decide what was the better option. I didn't agree with the majority and still don't. I even stopped to pray about it and revisited it. And the decision stands. I'm not sure folks see me as real 'willing' simply because of that. I'm not sure that's accurate. Undoubtedly, I'll inventory this one again by evening's end.
Willing in a whole lotta areas, though! I did say 'yes thanks, I'd love to do that' a whole lot today. I can't say that I've not practiced willingness today, cuz I have a whole LOT of times!
But boy....I can be stubborn--or perhaps it's determined and I'm looking at wrong, eh?
Gee...LOL....can't wait to do the inventory at the end of the day and see what comes out in the black and white of all this!
I think I like it better when I go INto the day with the chip rather coming to confess where I stumbled during the day! LOL
It's all about how it LOOKS ya know!!! LOLOL
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Post by Misty on Mar 2, 2005 20:32:31 GMT -5
Dear Caressa----Glad you were willing to stop by and talk about this chip-----Mistyeve
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Post by Misty on Mar 2, 2005 22:39:09 GMT -5
Hey There Amazing Graced!!!----I think you're working both sides of this chip and that is GREAT!!! In my own opinion if you can turn a
defect into an asset then you are really working a GREAT program! So
glad you were willing to stop by and talk about this chip!(did I sound like Tony the Tiger from the cereal when I said GREAT so loud?)
LOL inquiring minds want to know!!!
Mistyeve
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. I will be back looking for Lin and others.