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Post by Misty on Mar 2, 2005 22:54:42 GMT -5
I want to run over to Walmart and pick up a few things. I can accept the fact that I will have to cruise
the parking lot to look for a spot.
I get defiance going by getting checked out in the electronic section instead of the regular check out lanes. Do you have acceptance or defiance? Please let me know! Thanks-----Mistyeve
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Post by Lin on Mar 5, 2005 5:11:09 GMT -5
I love Wal Mart. I seldom have that problem of looking for a parking place because i go about 3 or 4 AM. LOTS of good spots then! And if I got defiance over the electronic check out, I'd ask myself if I'd be happier waiting the longer lines with a human cashier or the shorter one with electronic. I opt for the human...even if the lines are long. We all make personal choices. Choose the one that makes you the happiest.
Acceptance has really changed my life and my attitude.
it has helped me learn what things are up to me and which ones are out of my hands. Acceptance helps me not get bent out of shape over little stuff. it helps me take it easier over big stuff. Accepting does nto mean i have to like it. I jsut accept this is how it's gonna be.
ACCEPTANCE....much better for me.
LIN
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Post by caressa on Mar 5, 2005 12:39:21 GMT -5
Acceptance is the key to all areas of my recovery, and makes living in the moment more serene.
Accepting my disease, my pain, myself, others, life as it is in today, knowing that all things are subject to change, allows me to do what I need to do each day to maintain my sobriety and my serenity.
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Post by dg on Mar 5, 2005 13:22:44 GMT -5
Acceptance. To grow and learning to like myself again. Wallyworld..  I chose the electronic section if the lines were long and I only have a few items. But even then sometimes the electronic can be time consuming if you don't have the item in the bag just perfect.  |
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Post by lildee on Mar 5, 2005 13:42:24 GMT -5
Good Afternoon Mistyeve, Acceptance / Defiance Ouch!! Big topics for me. Defiance was a way of life for me as a kid. I would rebel at every corner. Dysfunctionality should have been my last name, because it ruled my house. The insanity and chaos were all around me on a daily basis. As a result a defiant streak rose up in me. Anyone in power or control triggered that defiance. Somehow even as a kid not knowing about drugs or alcohol, I knew things were not the same in other homes. Shrinks couldn't help. (because mom was in denial about her problems, and dad was zonked on morphine) . So my only option was to get out. Not the best choice but it was a choice nonetheless. I was married at 16. Needless to say that didn't pan out. Then off I went to the Army. This was my first taste of sanity and responsibility. I began to grow and mature and have some kind of values. After service I went to college and became the official "caretaker" a nurse. I had permission now to enable, control, and fix the ill, and the best part I got paid for it.  While in college I met hubby # 2. We got married and things were fine for a while. Until he started using. Then all the caretaking enabling, and fixing, started again. Luckily I found Alanon and was able to fix myself to the best of my ability. Now I can accept many of the things that I couldn't before, God, authority, and myself, my marriage to an addict. So I won't say that I made a compleate turn around from that defiant little rebel kid, but a lot certainly has changed via acceptance and the miracles of this program. Love & God Bless Arlene |
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Post by ~graced~ on Mar 5, 2005 23:48:20 GMT -5
Defiant! LOL
Okay, okay.....
Seems folks who've known me for a good number of 24 hours would tell you I'm much, MUCH more on the acceptance side of the chip than I've EVER been. I'm afraid I still can tend to see myself as that defiant, rebellious, oppositional gal who stumbled into the rooms back when. More and more my first reaction is of willingness and acceptance--BUT....I still get that 'I will NOT' thought that leaps out to try to grab me. I try to pause before I blurt it out! LOL It's still there, though....and it's why I'm STILL practicing saying "yes, thank you, I think I'd like to do that".
Wiseperson told me that people don't resist change, they resist BEING changed.
That's why I like the steps--they're optional with your misery back guaranteed if that's your choice. *blushing* I've demanded my refund more than once.
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I chose the electronic section if the lines were long and I only have a few items. But even then sometimes the electronic can be time consuming if you don't have the item in the bag just perfect. 
~With Peace & Love, dg~ 8*)[/b][/size]
While in college I met hubby # 2. We got married and things were fine for a while. Until he started using. Then all the caretaking enabling, and fixing, started again. Luckily I found Alanon and was able to fix myself to the best of my ability. Now I can accept many of the things that I couldn't before, God, authority, and myself, my marriage to an addict. 
. I will be back looking for Lin and others.