Monday Chip---Acceptance/Defiance

[Misty]

The 12 & 12 says I need to have reliance NOT defiance for my Higher
Power. God can help me survive the day and I accept that and am glad about it. Do you have acceptance or defiance??? Please let me know!
Thanks----Mistyeve

[johnl]

I have acceptance today of my higher power. I went threw 20 years of defiance before I was able to accept the fact I was powerless and a higher power could restore me to sobriety.

[Misty]

Dear John---The first & 2nd steps of the program do involve acceptance. It is a key ingrediant
to working the steps. Thanks for stopping by!-----Mistyeve

[Lin]

How do you love your new carpet? Wasn't it WORTH moving the furniture??? And was it not worth it to have a clean room now? Moving furniture out of a room and back makes me have to CLEAN. I got bedroom carpet abuot 2 years ago, but my carpet in the den was 1980. It's a huge room. Wish i could afford new carpet for it.

Acceptance and defiance? I had defiance in my life, but I used it to stay married to an active alkie for many, many years. I was NOT gonna allow my family to tell me I TOLD YOU SO. They did nto want me to marry him. They said 5 weeks was not long enough to know somebody before you married them. So i HAD to prove that they were wrong. Today I am glad I stuck around, but i cant say it was easy. (36 years married)

Acceptance is such a wondefl tool. it helps me keep my serenity. it helps me not get so frazzled by traffic or long lines at wal mart. it helps me not blow my top when my spouse relapses.

Acceptance does not mean i ahve to like something, condone it, approve of it. it means i can't do anything to change it, so why get frazzled over it? This is how it IS.

Lin

[lildee]

Good Morning Mistyeve.

Acceptance/Defiance

Defiance and anger is only self - perpetuating. If you are defiant and angry you will keep this cycle going unless you do something to change it. And you change it by becoming acceptant of your situation. Acceptance changes your attitude and gives you the clarity to seek out other options.

I was real defiant about one of my girls constantly using my computer because it is new and has a big hard drive.(and frankly I was afraid she would mess it up.) For a while I couldn't get past the anger. But once I accepted the fact that she really does need a computer for school work I was able to see different options that were available to me. Using scheduling of computer time, a new system, going to the library and so on. So acceptance gave me options and resolutions. So everyone is happy ;D

Love & God Bless
Arlene

[Misty]

Dear Lin----They are doing the carpet in 2 phases cuz I am living here with furniture. I have it in the 2 bedrooms and hall and yeah it feels great on bare feet. The living room will be done this weekend and then it will be all done. They found old cat urine stains and one of the previous tenents had left a window open and
there was water damage. Apartment
living is difficult but I have to
accept it and be glad the land lady
was willing to replace the 30 year
old carpet. Thanks for stopping by
Honey!-----Mistyeve


Dear Arlene----I know how you feel.
The circumstances are different but the feeling is the same. I have an
good size libraray of music on cds.
One of my neighbors came in and saw it and wanted to "borrow" 5-6 cds.
My stomach was in knots cuz people
tend to trash out stuff they borrow
or else never give it back. I am
very glad you worked something out
with your daughter. Thanks for stopping by!-----Mistyeve

[caressa]

I have acceptance about where I am at today, although I learned a long time ago that I don't have to like being there. I also accept the fact that I am the only one who can get me out of any negativie situation by surrendering and asking my Higher Power for help. Defiance only keeps me stuck and blocked from my HP's assistance.

[Misty]

Hey Caressa---Assistance from the Higher Power can make anything better!!! Thanks for stopping by---
Mistyeve