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Post by Misty on Mar 29, 2005 21:26:05 GMT -5
I went to the beauty shop and got my hair streaked and cut. It took over 2 hours and my neck and back were sore from bending back over the shampoo bowl. I went to work and noboday said a word. A few of the guys were staring at me but did
not say one freaking word! $80 and 2 hours or toture and not even a word. I could really feel sorry for myself over this but I am just
so tickled at how nice it came out
that I can just forget about not being noticed. Do you have self pity or are you self forgetful? Please let me know! Thanks!-----
Mistyeve
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Post by Lin on Mar 30, 2005 5:20:16 GMT -5
$80 for a streak and cut! WOW! I've never paid for a "streak" But I only pay $15 for shampoo, cut and style. Prices are high where you live! lol Keep in mind...YOU like it.....so that is what is important.
Self pity? I was jsut thinking of this a few minutes ago. How when I was told I had to give myself shots in the belly for 2 years every day...that made me so upset and it was similar to self-pity. As i gave myself a belly shot while ago I was thinking...all that upset I had for those few days and it's actually not so bad at all. It had tons of steps to get the injector pen ready, but I learned the steps in a couple of weeks and don't need the directions any more. So that little surge of self pity I had is gone. It's not so bad after all. I jsut hope it WORKS and i can stop after 2 years. (Kind of creepy I was thinking of this particular chip and then turned on the computer and there it was! )
Self forgetful is what I call "thoughtful". When I think of others instead of putting myself FIRST I am "thoughtful". I do try to be thoughtful in all areas of my life.
LIN
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Post by Misty on Mar 30, 2005 7:33:52 GMT -5
Dear Lin----Yeah $80 is a lot of money and that is why I don't usually do anything more fancy then
get a haircut. I think you are so
brave strong person to give yourself a shot in the belly every
day. I don't know that I could do
that. The feeling you had about
thinking of something and then it
happens is sometimes called a "coincidence" or God being anonymous. I think it is a great
spiritual zinger when that happens!
Thanks for stopping by!---Mistyeve
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Post by ~graced~ on Mar 30, 2005 8:58:06 GMT -5
Wow! And here I was thinkin' they must have done an upstanding job of making it look natural for folks to look and not comment on the glaring change! Gotta tell ya, the Brit commented on a picture being hung up yesterday...I had to laugh cuz it was over a week ago that I hung it!
Good reminder for me to put it out there versus setting up people to read minds or note something they're just not noting.
"Look honey, I hung a picture" is always a better route for me--saves me from my fragile little alcoholic feeling being hurt...LOL...and wipes out that excuse for feeling bad for poor little ol' me. LOL
And today, I'm hoping for Self Forgetting and moving into that 'thoughtfulness' that Lin was talking about. I can be really self absorbed when I wanna be. And I can easily make it all about MEMEME--in a heartbeat! That's why the old fart sponsors make it about getting outta precious little ol' me to go help others. Anything I start feeling whiney about always gets right sized when I do that. Problem is, sometimes I'm just not willing cuz I'm liking the mini pity party I throw for myself.
Dangerous stuff to indulge in for this alcoholic...
Truth is, I've never HAD it so good. But cuz I'm a 'nothing in moderation' kinda alcoholic, I get to whine three times....LOL...and THEN I HAVE to GET OVER IT.
I'm gonna see if I can cut that down to whining ONCE today and get about the business of staying in the thoughfulness towards others.
Besides, their business is much more interesting than mine....LOLOL
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Post by caressa on Mar 30, 2005 11:57:26 GMT -5
Sound like it looked natural to me too, the difference for me today, is that I don't have to bring their attention to the fact I got my hair done, but there are occasions I still ask, "Do you like it?"
I think it is important to feel good. My sponsor always said, "If you got recovery, show it, act it, etc.
I think many of us forget ourselves, we have been so busy caretaking or running the con, that we tend to forget that in recovery we need to learn to take care of ourselves. That doesn't mean we need to pity ourselves because we have less than, but be grateful for what we do have and the many gifts and lessons along the way.
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Post by Misty on Mar 30, 2005 17:02:48 GMT -5
Dear Graced----I never thought of it that way! It does look natural and brightens me up. Wow! Thanks for that point of view! My little fragile alkie feelings were getting
stomped on! LOL You are right people are NOT mind readers or know what we expect them to say. I have to remember that in the future. I'm
so glad you could stop by and talk
about this chip!!!----Mistyeve
Dear Caressa---Thanks for stopping by! Nice to hear from you--Mistyeve
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. I will be back looking for Lin and others.