Saturday Chip----Pride/Humility

[Misty]

I am proud that I volunteered to chair the Sat 10am meeting at the
AA Club. I am very humble that it looks like nobody cares about this or the chip for yesterday. I keep telling myself that I am doing it for me and if it helps you thats great. Are you humble or proud????
Don't be a ghost please post!!!!
Mistyeve

[lildee]

Hi Misty,

No not a ghost, just tied up with some family crisis.

Complacency seems to be running amuck. Fret not you keep doing what you have been doing. I know if I don't work my program I loose it and my abilty to maintain my serenity.

Sure it is life on life's terms BUT the does not mean that you forget about your program. I miss a meeting because of things that have a higher priority, you can bet I find another one. I miss posting I jump back in and start over. The only way to keep it is to give it away. To spread your ESH. We all get stronger by sharing with on another. We all have our own lives and problems aside from anything related to drugs or alcohol. The world keeps going on. Bills to pay, kids to tend to, food to get on the table. That is all part of life. The key is balance. Finding that perfect blend of all parts of our humanness. It is all in the choices we make and what our priorities are. For me my program and my family are my priorities. But each person will have their own priorities. For some it will be their job for other it will be different. Keep posting the chips I need it just as much as you. Nuff said.

NOw for the chip

Pride / Humility

For me there is a certain amount of self pride that is necessary to function in this world. To get up get dressed and present myself as a human being. Without that I could stay in PJ's all day, not comb my hair and look pretty scary. Not where I want to be.

I am proud of my family for all their accomplishments but I don't boast about it. Hubby has been clean now for 18 months, my older daughter plays four instruments, my younger is a straigth A student on high honor roll. My pride is not centered on me. It is centered on those I love and care about.

This past week has been a true test of humbleness and humility and which to put forward. To stand strong in face of adversity and pain of another. I hope I have learned my lessons well. But only time will tell what wreckage remains.

Love & God Bless
Arlene

[Misty]

My Very Dear Sweet Wonderful Arlene
You are a great example of Name it,
Claim it, Dump it!!! I think it is a great way to keep my self clean of garbage and resentment and just
reading what you had to say has reinforced that idea!!!! I have been real depressed and tired and oversensitive lately cuz of the loss of 2 real good strong and very important relationships in my life.
The treachery and thoughtlessness
that was dished out was just totally uncalled for and now I guess the grief and loss are getting to me. I know I got to go thru this. I can't go under it or
around it or over it I got to go thru it and try to impersonate an
adult. I really really really do
appreciate what you have to say and
want to thank you from the bottom of my broken heart for being very
instrumental in helping this "chip"
column to keep going. Without any
feedback I start to feel like I am
talking to myself and getting a little crazy. Don't know if any of
this made any sense. Thanks for stopping by to converse with this
crazed alcoholic addict menopausal
woman aka-----Mistyeve

[lildee]

Dear "crazed alcoholic addict menopausal
woman aka-----Mistyeve "

Nope its not you. Lin has been having attendence problems too. I got and e - mail from one of the new comers asking how to get into the chat room. Wonder if there was something to promote that better? Hmmmm got to think on that one.


Taking two "hits" as you have is tough even under normal circumstances. You're clean and sober that is your testament to a good program!!! Keep doing what you"re doing.

love ya lady,
Nuts in NJ
Arlene

[Misty]

My VEry Dear Arlene---What kind of nuts are in NJ peanuts? Walnuts? Inquiring minds want to know! LOL

I have told several people about this column and they all say that getting signed in and over to the msg board is real confusing and very time consuming. I do what I can to explain but I agree that it does have to be kept simple or else
have person who can walk ya thru.
Kathleen was very good at that and
I sure miss her....Thanks so much
for stopping by!!! Always so good
to hear from you!!! Love & Hugs
Mistyeve

[Lin]

I honestly thought I had posted the friday chip. I know i read it. I bet when i wrote my reply I hit the RESET button intead of the POST button. LOL I know I posted the meeting topic and a post to a newcomer and assumed i had done the chip. Sorry you took that as NOBODY CARES ABOUT THE CHIP FOR YESTERDAY. I do see a couple of replies, and i know i THOUGHT i had replied. Like Lildee said, the online meeting attendance is down. I could very well be doing other things instead of posting topic for a meeting and planning for those topics, waiting 30 min to greet anybody trying to get to the meeting, showing up faithfully for the meetings, and then only 1 or 2 or even nobody shows up at all. I want to blame myself. that the topic was not useful or they dont like my meetings. But I honestly cant see that as the problem. It's more like folks want th meeting to be there if and when they can squeeze it in. I've chaired these metings since EOR opened. I forget when that was but I think it's about 4 years. I'm not one who lets go and gives up easily, so for now I'm hanging in there.

pride and humility.

Pride has many meanings. being proud of my accomplishments and my successes, proud when photos of my dogs get picked for national calendars, proud when my students all do well on a hard test...proud when my ww members get an award for losing more weight...all of that is well and good with me but I seriously doubt that is what this chip is about. They all need a positive and negative flip side. The positivie side is humility...being humble in asking for guidance from my HP and allowing him to work thru me. Humility is being able to let others help me insted of saying let me do it all myself. PRIDE as a negative flip side is haughty, stuck up, know-it-all, snobby, show off, and braggy.
As i see these words I dont see myself. But do others se me as show off when I wear new, bright smaller clothes? When a WW member sees my "before" picture and says it looks like a different person, is saying THANK YOU enough? or when my reply is to tell them I lost 60 lbs in the first 11 months and have kept it off for nearly 2 years...is that being BRAGGY or is it being a loyal employee trying to motivate my members that it WORKS IF YOU WORK IT? Perhaps a thin line between humble and proud. I think if I was humble about how passionate I am about the WW program, then I woudl not be very inspiring to my membrs. My meting this week had 57. Half of my county was still on spring break and many go on vacation and i had my biggest week ever! I'm proud of this! I'm proud that they heard about me from others and wanted to try my meeting. When a leader has 11 years and i have 3 months, it feels good when the members tell me they like my meetings better. That could be bragging to some folks. or it coul;d be in that unrelated definition of pride that i am proud of the job I am doing.

I think I will work on this chip alot this week. I'll try to keep inspiring at everything i do but do so in a very humble way.

LIN

[Misty]

Dear Wonderful Lin Honey-----Thank you for stopping by today!!! I know I shouldn't let my feelings get hurt but sometimes they just do. I
am not perfect and probably never will be but I do try!!! That is what this column is all about---try
to be aware and gradually correct any defects of character. Thanks again for stopping by Honey! It is always good to hear from you!!!!
Love & Hugs----Mistyeve