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Post by Misty on Apr 9, 2005 21:36:22 GMT -5
My life feels like chaos with trying to pick up the pcs. of the broken relationships. I say the Serenity Prayer constantly hoping that God will grant me some....Do you have serenity or chaos??? Please let me know! Thanks-Mistyeve
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Post by lildee on Apr 10, 2005 1:56:26 GMT -5
Good Morning Mistyeve,
Misty be gentle on yourself !!! Take care of Misty !!!
Senernity/ chaos
For me I have to WORK for my serenity. It is not doled out by my HP. He doesn't wave a magic wand and everything is going to be alright. If I want peace and serenity I have to set those things into motion to achieve that serenity. In other words you aren't gonna have serenity when you have a bad attitude. When I feel my serenity slipping I look to myself first before point the finger, or placing the blame on anyone else. What is my part in all of this? Why am I feeling so miserable?
Not every single day is filled with serenity and peace and bliss. But there are fewer and fewer days filled with chaos. The days when I couldn't remember what I was doing, or supposed to do, because my mind was so filled with garbage that I was unable to focus on reality and the here and now. Days when I couldn't write a check out for my kids lunch money don't happen anymore. For me now the chaos that does exsist is subdued and more of a scheduling problem than anything else. Who is coming , who is going, who needs to be dropped off, or picked up. Who's books are due at the library, who is getting the groceries and such. There are only 24 hours in a day and I do what I can without busting my chops and becoming a nervous wreck. I have learned that certain things can wait for another time, another moment. The laundry isn't going to get up and walk away. A big part of my serenity comes from prioritizing what is REALLY important, the other stuff goes to the bottom of the list. If it gets done great, if not too bad. And the best thing about all of this is I don't feel bad or guilty about it. I am only one human and I do the best I can and that is all I've got to give. I am not super mom or super wife I am a plain simple person. Something that took me a long time to figure out. Instead of trying to please everyone and do for them. Now it's me first may sound selfish but it keeps my peace.
Love & God Bless
Arlene
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Post by Misty on Apr 10, 2005 3:35:06 GMT -5
My Very Dear Arlene----Thanks for the kind words Honey! I am trying to be good to myself but I do beat
myself up when things go wrong cuz I was taught thru this program to look at my part and clean up my side of the street. I also believe
in the Serenity Prayer where it says "God grant me the serenity..."
YOU are talking about peace of mind and being able to look yourself in the mirror and have some good self
esteem. I agree with you 100% on that and also think that peace and
serenity are real real close to being the same thing cuz when I have serenity I have peace and vice
versa. It is the same with acceptance and surrender. In my own opinion the are real real close
to being the same thing cuz I have
them usually at the same time. I'm
kinda splitting hairs here but I just want ya to know this is how I
was raised in the program by the old dinasaurs of AA. I am getting to be one of them too cuz on Friday
I will have 21 continuous years of
sobriety and I think that is real
real close to being a dinosaur!!!!
Sorry this got all long and windy!!
Thanks so much for stopping by.....
Love & Hugs & Opinions----Mistyeve
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Post by Lin on Apr 10, 2005 4:05:12 GMT -5
I'm pleased to know so many wonderful AA dinosaurs...Mistyeve, Dorrie, Ron, Kathleen, Morey, etc. Thanks for helping this AlAnon be more understanding of the disease. You folks can't imagine how much I have learned from you.
serenity/ chaos?
Lildee had a wonderful share. it's that way with me too. i still have chaos today, but I jsut dont let it suck me in. My serenity is more important than allowing myself to get caught in the tornado of addictions to the point I dont know what I am diong , if I am coming or giong. The confusion clears when I stop and breathe. When I take time to ask myself what is the next right thing I can do. Sometimes it is jsut pray and let my GOD take over from here.
The serenity prayer is very important to me, but it's not so much the part GOD GRANT ME THE SERENITY...it's the next part. to ACCEPT THE THINGS I CANNOT CHANGE and CHANGE TE THINGS I CAN. Most of the time those things I can change means my own attitude and actions. I can make choices today and those choices are not the ones that keep me stick in the muck. They dont let me wallow in self pity. Those actions don't let me worry about the past or obsess abtout he fut/ure.
So to answer your questions, i have both. I have serenity and I have chaos. The cool part..the serenity comes first and the chaos does not happen as often as it used to or last for very long.
LIN
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Post by Misty on Apr 10, 2005 7:39:15 GMT -5
Dear Lin----It is an honor and a priviledge for me to do this column
If I can help anyone to understand
or help myself to "muddle thru" this life clean and sober then at least I am doing something right!!!
Thank you for saying that I am helping you understand. Coming from a teacher that is really a major compliment and I will live on it for a long time!!!! Yes chaos is
certainly buffered when ya have a
taste of serenity. It is a hell of a double shot like whiskey with a beer chaser! (best example I can come up with) Thanks so much for
stopping by Honey!-------Mistyeve
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Post by caressa on Apr 10, 2005 13:28:18 GMT -5
Great shares my friends. For me there is chaos, it is a part of life. It is how I deal with it, that determines whether I have serenity and peace or whether I am in a dither and going around in a spin.
When I turn the chaos over to my HP, but more importantly, I surrender myself to Him, and ask for the courage, the strength, the willingness, and the knowingness that I need to deal with the situation.
Sometimes I look at myself and have a good laugh. I know the solution, yet sometimes it is so easy to live in the problem. Again it seems to all boil down to my acceptance and my expectations of myself and others.
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Post by Misty on Apr 10, 2005 15:45:13 GMT -5
Dear Caressa----Early on in my recovery I was told by a "dinosaur"
that I/E=S I was never good at math so I had to ask what the hell that meant!!!! He explained that
Intelligence over Emotions equals
Serenity. Just wanted to share that with you. Thanks for stopping
by today!-----Mistyeve
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Post by lildee on Apr 11, 2005 9:47:15 GMT -5
Love the formula Misty, passing that one on to a few math buffs.
Love Arlene
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Post by Misty on Apr 11, 2005 19:13:11 GMT -5
Hey Arlene---Want to try balancing my check book??? LOL now there is a math formula!!! Just joking!!!!
Glad ya liked it and thanks for stopping by-----Mistyeve
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. I will be back looking for Lin and others.