Thursday Chip---Responsible/Irresponsible

[Misty]

I went to a gas station to get gas and the pump wouldn't accept my debit card. I went inside to ask the attendant for help and he told me to try 2-3 other pumps and then maybe he might get off his...chair
to come out and help me. I went back to my car and drove to another station. He was NOT being
responsible and helping me so I was responsible for taking my business else where. I think that was an irresponsible way to treat a customer!!! Are you responsible
or irresponsible??? Please let me
know! Thanks---Mistyeve

[lildee]

Morning Mistyeve,

Responsible/Irresponsible

For the most part I would have to say that I am responsible. I generally weigh my options and see what take priority of importance.

But every once and a while there is a twinge of irresponsiblity.... where I would just like to take off and enjoy doing nothing. But it is only a thought , and a fleeting one at that.

Love & God Bless
Arlene

[Misty]

Dear Arlene---I have those kind of fleeting thoughts all the time!!! LOL Hey great minds think alike!!!
Sometime responsible and irresponsible get a tug of war going!!! Thanks for stopping by Honey!-Mistyeve

[Lin]

I am resonsible most of the time. Once in a while I get a little carried away in taking up for myself and I can get carried away. Example...I took one of the dogs to the vet last week to have his teeth cleaned. PERHAPS i shoudl ahve point blank asked..how much will this all cost me? But I did nto. They jsut told me $14 for the take home pain meds and 35 for the initial bloodwork. SO i said OK. When i picked him up it was $218. I paid it and left. I was not happy with the way they treated me at the desk....letting another person take his cat who arrived after I did...and not telling me we are sorry you had to wait...not "mnaking over' any of the pets...(Smokey..you were sjut a good boy!, You come back and se us again you little Sweetie, etc. they USED to tdo that.) So i complained. I complained to the women at the desk that day, called back on the phone and asked why I was quoted 35 for the lab work and not 48.55...and their excuse was I am new here. i was also told a certain doc woudl do the procedure and when it actually came to pass a very new one did it because that one moved away tog et married 6 weeks ago. Well, I complained to a girl I know who works there and she said she'd bring it up with the bosses. And yesterday one of the vets...boxxes, called me and we talked a long time abuot the long wait, the mis quotes on prices, and the way they did not "fuss over' the animals that day. He apologized and is crediting my account for $40. In the end i came out OK. But Imade a very big deal about my treatment. I even considered going across town to the other branch next time, but this one is so close to my house, I hate to do that. was i being responsible by complaining and gtting back some money? Prehaps. But did i go overboard in my complaints? maybe. 20 years ago...pre reco vvery days, i woudl hnto ahve said a word. i woudl have expected i DESERVED to be treated that way...overcharged...etc.

I think the biggest mistake i do when it comes to being responsible is thinking i need to be responsible when others don't do THEIR part. I want to step in and do it, jsut to be sure everything gets done.

I will work ont his chip today. Promise not to complain or do something another person needs to do.

LIN

[caressa]

Today I was irresponsible in the fact that I waited with my friend until her husband was due to pick her up, then I went to school. I was three-quarters of an hour late. I found it difficult to choose between being loyal to my friend and going to school for myself.

[Misty]

Dear Lin----It sounds like a lot of money to me for the care of your dog!!! You have every right to question and complain. Thanks for stopping by! Please give your dog a nose to tail pet for me! Thanks----Mistyeve


Dear Caressa----Going to school is a responsible thing to do. It seems like you have to choose what is a bigger priority to you. Thanks for stopping by-----Mistyeve

[DJgrrl]

As a child and an adult I was told and believed I was responsible for almost everything. If I my mother hit me , it was becasue I didn't do the dishes. If I didn't have a boyfriend, it was because I was too fat. When i was diagnosed with chronic hepatitis, I believed it was because something I did. ( Ex. drank bad water, tasted alcohol, kissed a boy) If my dad woke up early, it was because I was too noisey.
As an adult I was tired of being responsible for so much. I believed that I was not a very responsible person and therefore I didn't couldn't handle responsibility. I took very little on.
What I did take on I became overly responsible for.
I do see that not taking on a lot of responsibility has been a blessing. I've been in recovery for 4 years. It has only been recently that I have been able to truly set boundaries as to what I am responsible for and who I am responsible to. It's been the most joyous, painful and often messy part of my recovery. I love it.

DJgrrl

[Misty]

Dear DJ Girl----So good to hear from you! Wow! you brought up an
angle of responsible that I haven't even considered. You made
it sound like responsible can also be made into a scrape goat for all the stuff that goes wrong. Thanks for stopping by! You sure gave me a lot to think about! Please come back whenever ya can-----Mistyeve