Patient/Impatient

[caressa]

Today has been a day of patience. I have a new Al-Anon sponsee who had two months before, stopped coming and has two months again.

We had our first one on one today at my place and it was good as far as I could tell.

My NA sponsee relapsed last week and called me today to say she was back. Tomorrow night I will go with her to a meeting. I have also suggested that she too go to Al-Anon because she needs to detach from her boyfriend of six years and her parents.

I am trying to be patient. This disease is patient, it waits until we let our guard down and can take us right back to where we came from if we allow it. Only a spiritual defense worked for me.

[Lin]

Patient and impatient? I really feel I am a pretty patient person. I dont get road rage in traffic or long liones. I keep explaining things to my students when they don't understand. (not QUITE so patient when I give directions 5 or 6 times and some STILL are not listening...lol) And I am really MUCH more patient with my alcoholic hubby when he drinks that I was 13 years ago and came to AlAnon.

But this week...he knew I had a dentist appointment after school so he'd have and extra hour or so to be home alone. He drank. it was not a huge amount, but it was enough he was obnoxious to the house cleaner and made her nrvous. She was not sure why, but I knew. And then yesterday I had an all day meeting with my other job and he got totally smashed. He could barely talk when I called on the way home and by the time I got here he was completely passed out. I have not spoken to him. I think he got u0p in the middle of the night because he has taken off his shoes. I slept on the couse. If he had been awake I woudl not have been patient with him. twice in one week? Not how he knows he needs to work it. Go to your aa meeting on friday night...go to your sponsor one on one meeting saturday morning....and get passed out drunk on saturday afternoon? I am surprised that is how AA works. (LOL...kidding....I know in my heart he is not telling his group or his sponsor. about these relapses....so HE is the one not working it to his own advantage.)

LIN

[caressa]

Relapse isn't a part of recovery my friend. Slip stands for "Sobriety Loses It's Priority" as Misty use to tell us. He isn't working a program so he can't stay sober. Just showing up at one meeting and talking to someone doesn't get you sober. It is "don't drink and go to meetings" that works not "go to meetings and drink!"