Awareness of Others/Self-Centered

[caressa]

I was aware of others today, but didn't like the message I received.

I went shopping with a friend who I have known for many years and for some reason, it never ceases to amaze me about the differences between us even though we are both Aires.

She was controlling, insisting that she would get the food and we would settle later and asked me what I wanted. We were in a Walmart plaza and went to MacDonald's. I asked for a big Mac and she came back with a Double Big Mac. It was gross, way too much meat for me. For another $3. we could have had a Chinese all-you-can-eat buffet. Two pop and two double burgers came to $12. and change. The buffet is $8.99 + tax.

She has been wanting to go up for ages and we never could get a day that was good for us. Today my sponsee postponed our meeting to Sunday, so I was finally free to go with her. I only had to get one thing and came back with five. She went shopping for the new grandson she is expecting in August. She kept saying, "I have to leave something for next time." This is a first time for her and she is very excited. I am happy for her. My son says he will never make me a grandmother, so there could be some envy there. Mind you the thought of my son being a responsible father is too much of a stretch for my imagination.

While he is still using, best he stay single.

[Lin]

If I hear you right, the mesage you received was she order4ed for you what she wanted instead of what you asked for? I am guessing...jsut guessing....that she thought..if you want a cheeseburger, she will get you the best one they have because she wantd to show you she enjoys your company. It could also be she jsut thought it was easier to say TWO of something than two things fairly different as she ordered. I honestly woudl not be thinking she ordered wrong for me on purpose. As an outsider, that's how i see the situation.

Ny whole life I felt like others were treated better than I was. But now that I have had a chance to work on ME and my own attitudes....I can see it was jsut my perception many times.

Being aware of others and their needs, thier feelings...helps me be a much nicer person to be around.

LIN

[caressa]

Thanks for sharing Lin. She asked me what I wanted and I said a Big Mac. She has known me a long time and knows I am not a big eater. To order a double for me, even if she wanted one herself, is presumptious. She did admit she didn't picture it the way it arrived. I think her perception is off. She has been on medication and hasn't gone to any meetings in over six months. Having a burger with four patties is just too much meat! Too much beef! LOL!