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Post by caressa on May 26, 2006 12:47:20 GMT -5
I am very much a person in the moment. I seem to have developed such an in the moment lifestyle that time seems to disappear. It seems like only yesterday when it fact it could be two or three weeks ago. I do visit the past, I still do get memories, but I don't dwell in them like I did in the past. I still have work to do on the worrying in today. When it comes to money, I can still project into the future. I know my needs are provided so don't project so much into the future.  |
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Post by Lin on May 27, 2006 11:32:07 GMT -5
It makes my life much more SERENE when I do stay in the NOW. Dwelling on the past does no good. I can learn from it...remember the GOOD parts, but no need to visit the unpleasant parts. I also don't need to project into the future. The WHAT-IFs can get me into worry and fear and obsession if I allow it.
Staying in the NOW..doing the enxt right thing NOW is what works best for me.
LIN
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Post by sj on Jun 14, 2006 17:47:30 GMT -5
I am absolutely terrible for living in the past. I know that I am, and it's not surprising that many a time I've been accused of not letting things go, and living in the past. I am also very guilty of projecting all my thoughts and worries into the future. I sometimes think that there's no point not having a drink now, because I'm bound to give into one sooner or later. There's no point getting a job now, because it wont lead to anything. I'm forever thinking about how I got to where I am today, and what is in store for my future. Going over how stupid/careless I was to get into debt, and how it could take me the rest of my life to pay it all off. So much time is dwelt on that, there IS no time left to just live in the moment.
So what if I had a bad patch last week, so what if I do give in and drink next week. Today I am sober. Today I feel alright. Today I achieved things I can be proud of.
Today is good.
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Post by Lin on Jun 17, 2006 4:50:49 GMT -5
I enjoyed your post. I want to remind you.,...no need to be hard on yourself. (getting into debt) We all do things we regret. I like to remember the old saying (not recovery slogan...lol) Don't cry over spilled milk. I cant pick it up and put it back in the jug...so clean up the mess the best I can and move on.
One other thought...my hubby is manic-depressive. I think often alcoholics have this "bi-polar" personality. During his "manic" times he wantd to spend-spend-spend. It did not matter if we had the money or not. One night we went to a dance and they were doing line dancing. Lots of the ladies had oncowboy boks. He took 4 ladies, including myself to a shoe store and bought each of us cowboy boots. He was telling a neighbor about it the next day and she was sad she missed out on the cowboy boots. So he bought HEr a pair of famolares. I inherited about 100,000 from my grandparents and we blew it . I cant pinpoint anything we used it for except paying off the house. (and we only owed 13,000) So IF YOU have that same condition...getting into debt is a very common problem that you were not able to control.
When I stay intoday my life goes much smoother. Obsessing about the what-ifs...the future will jsut make me crazy. Dwelling on the past only makes me angry or sad. So stay in the right now and do the next right thing.
LINDA
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. I will be back looking for Lin and others.