Calm/worrisome?

[Lin]

Most of the time I am more of the CALM than the worrisome. But lately the worrisome self has been emerging much more often thanmakes em comfortable.

I have a situation at work. SOme of those around me are in trouble with their jobs. The performance they are expecting us to meet is not what I consider fair. And many of us are/will be on the choppig block. The new boss wants to talk to each of us individually. She has spoken to one and that lady quit instead of being fired or relieved of some of her hours. So now I am worryingl...will they ask me to take her parts? Will they expect ME to do what according to them she was not doing well enough? Will the other co-workers be mad because i take her part? Will more quit and leave me stranded? And even I am worrying.....will they ask somebody less qualified to take it and not give me a chance? So the worrisome me is really in high gear these last few weeks.

To return to the CALM...I need to say the serenity prayer as often as I think of it. I need to focus on what I can and cannot change. I need tokeep doing my job and do it to the best of my ability. I need to WAIt...be patient until the boss tells me if my parts are not up to snuff. I need to WAIT and stop worrying about IF I will be asked or not.

Today are you calm or worrisome?

LIN

[preciouschihua]

Thank you for posting this. Is good to hear what is going
in your life.
Yesterday I visited my daughter, whom is recently newly wed/
Now mind you she lived with her husband for 5 years before
they got married. well, the visit was more than an learning
lesson. I thought they had the white picket fence and all
the glory and all that, at least ---------- it appeared that way.
Well, i had to see another side. I was so shocked I just sat
there remaining quiet. I wanted to tell my son - in - law
whom I ( did ) adore, what the hell are you saying and
treading my daughter.
Well, ==== I just remained quiet. My mind was somwwhere
between beginninng to boil, and somewhere like jezzzzzzzzzzzz
and I thought she had the white picket fence, and shining armor.

So ---- she and I managed to step outside and I almost felt
like I was the child and she the parrent. Where am I going with
this? See that is why I don't post. Senior momoent.

Where was I going. ------ poop, I will finish this when I remember. LOL I was going somewhere, ---------
Suzanne

[dg]

Hey suz I do that ALL the time, I hate it. grrr. My daughter was laughing at me yesterday because I told her a story 2 times already.. and she had to point it out to me. OH Well, I did tell her when she gets to my age and starts doing taht I can point a finger at her and smile.

Anyways, I hope you had a good visit over all in spite of all the stuff you seen.

[MrDuck]

Your not going to believe this. But I am really getting good at keeping my mouth shut. I to have a son in law that I am not overly impressed with. But daughter has her own life to live and own lessons to learn. I am sure with my drinking and raising cane when I first got married that my in laws where always impressed with the wonderful, charming ( cough cough) son in law they got. Life seems to be one learning lesson right after another and I am still learning them.

Keep smiling and nice to see you posting again.

Ron

[jeanne1]

My church family has always been important to me. Our church has struggled the last few years and we have lost a lot of people, because of the leadership. I was asked by a friend to attend the business meeting today(I normally do not go to these, because more times than not, they have been very unpleasant). Anyway, my friend had something very important to say, and she asked for my support by being there. As we went thru the financial stuff, I was getting upset on how much we owed and what everyone was getting paid (way over with some than we can afford). Then another issue came up which blame was put on some people who work very hard for the church, and of course they were not there to be able to defend themselves. Then after my friend said what she had to say...I think at first everyone was shocked, then being the "yes" people we have become, the essecnce of the message was being swept under the carpet, and everyone just tried to smooth it over, without even a blink. I started to speak up, and I was hushed up because I didn't raise my hand first. I just wanted to scream what is wrong with us! Why are we just sticking our heads in the sand and acting like everything is ok but deep down we know it isn't? I was so upset by the time I left there I felt I had no church. I still cannot get back my calm...I almost put this under poor me...but ya know I feel real saddness in my heart over this and what we have become as a church...what little there is left of it. I am really at a loss. I am sure there is something I will learn from this...I just wish my serenity would come back in the mean time. thanks

[MrDuck]

Welcome to the site Jeannie.

At AA they call me Mr Focker. And other places they call me other things. But wether it is at an AA meeting, club meeting, church meeting, town meeting or where ever they know I don't beat around the bush. My wife tells me I am often to honest and should learn more about being a diplimat (sp). Even the people that don't agree with me respect the fact that I say what I mean and am up front about it. One time I was asked to be on the city planning committee. The building inspector told me that the city manager thought I would be good on it. That surprised me as the city manager and I often bump heads. The building inspector told me that even if the manager and I didn't often agree that he respected my opinion. I would rather tick off a whole group and have peace of mind than be one to go with the flow and hate what I did or did not do. It is not always easy to do it but I like the end results better than kepting my mouth shout and going with the flow. Wish you the best and hope you keep coming back.

Ron

[Lin]

Thanks for all the posts. My original post is now about to come to a head. I had a meeting with my boss and she told me my numbers ar also in trouble. I asked if I, too, woudl be given 4 weeeks to bring them up and she said, she'll tell me when she surprises me with a drop in observation. SO I have to wait for the axe to fall and I am pretty sure it will. I make them lots of oney and I give it 200%. She does not even know how well i AM at my job. But her boss says if we dont produce, replace us and try to get somebody in there who will. Not gona happen. I asked her if she expected me to pull people out of my behind and plop them in a chair. Si I am not so calm again.




lin

[caressa]

My life has been worrisome for sure. When your son is in active addiction, it is difficult not to worry. Yet I know it does no good, and when I find myself there, I try to remember that I heard somewhere that it was about not praying and having faith that your prayers will be answered.

I have also found that it is about me not minding my own business, although i don't like to admit it, it is often true.

[jeanne1]

Thanks Ron...I have been keeping my opinions to myself about a lot of things for quite a while...sometmes that may be good...but when I think about it I do have some worthwhile things to share too. I need to practice..been out of loop way too long. Lin...I share your frustration about giving 200% and then some and then feeling you are not getting the respect you deserve. I get the feeling that you have a lot of valuable experience as well as loyalty (don't find that much anymore). I think those qualities are very much deserving..and can really take you as far as you want to go. Smiling at ya! Jeanne

[dg]

Hey Lin,
You know what they say about the unknown happenings in our life and how it falls.
I am sure that this lady is just as stressed as you with HER BOSS hanging over her head to make sure that the daily quota is meant with this company.
Just hang in there. I am sure that it will all work out for you on the long run.

[Lin]

Thanks DG. I know she's had time to drop by to face me and give me my notice or whatever it will be. It is just so sad to know I am probably the best at my job of anybody at our center and I probably won't be given a chance. My numbers are better than any others there. They are better than they were last year. It's just ot g good enough for the company. As s\
SUZ ouwld say...POOP.

LIN

[dg]

LOL.. suz has such a way to make someone smile with her words: As s\
SUZ ouwld say...POOP.
Let us know how it all goes. I still hope for the best for ya.