Sober for only 2 days now and I can't sleep

[joey222]

Hi everyone, I am restless and my body aches pretty bad. If I stay sober for more than 2 days I become ill and extremely temper-mental.
I imagine this might be a silly question but I'm curious to know if this is gonna hurt worse and if someone else has gone through any sickness symptoms and if so please elaborate.
With that being said I am quiting drinking and I came here for some help.

Good luck to all of us.

[lunchlady]

Joey,
My sons name! Joseph.... Best of luck! You can do this. You must be trying for a very important reason just keep that reason in your mind at all times. My husband is an alcoholic and relishes in it. Well you knew I was when you married me type stuff. It's a horrible life and gets worse as you age. He has just at 54 broken his hip as he drinks and doesn't eat and has BAD bone loss. He is still drinking......I don't know that he will ever recover.. Think of who your alcoholism effects, not only you ,but to have a long healthy, enjoyable life you can get through this. There are Drs and pills that can help if it gets to crazy and meetings and people who care.Just ask and you will have help! I pray for you the best life there is.Good luck and stay in touch!!!! lunchlady

[MrDuck]

Evening.

I am Ron, alcoholic from MN. Better know around here as Mr Duck. Anyway I remember when I would come off a hard drinking bout my stomach would hurt like hell and feel like a big fist sitting there. But if I would eat DECENT FOOD and drink lots of water things would level off. But remember I am an alki not a doctor. If you feel you need medical help please go to the hospital. If you want more support in recover try AA. There is strength in numbers and there is numbers at AA.

Off to supper but wish you the best. Will check back later.

Ron

[joey222]

Hi Lunchlady
I'm sorry to hear about your husband. I hope he is alright, even more I hope that you are doing well. My father was always a heavy drinker. At 51 he hurt himself and was not able to work he drank himself to death in 1 year dying at 52. I was eighteen when that happened. Since then I,ve been drinking but not heavily until these past few years. Fortunately I was able to forgive my father when I was about 26. by that time I had a problem and didn't realize it. Ive been drinking almost every night for the past few years. I have been admitted to the hospital for heart and muscle problems 3 times in the last 7 months. I thought I was definitely going to die on this last one.
I realize the damage is done and if I want to live just a little longer then I know what I need to do. I have 2 small boys to raise and a beautiful wife that depends on me.
I am now on day 3 and my head hurts, my hands are shaking and my eyeballs feel like cotton balls in their own sockets.
If I'm gonna leave this world I'm gonna go looking through cotton.

( sorry for the lengthy post but it just kinda came out, so I wrapped it up )
Sincerely,
Joey

[lunchlady]

Hi Joey,
It sounds like you are a very caring loving husband and father. It Is NEVER to late to change. You might try buying things like boost or ensure for a while. It has helped my husband when he once in a while tries to quit. It is a very diffucult thing. If you go to a Dr they can give you medicine to help get through the worst. Go outside when you can and play with your kids and laugh and sing and picture yourselve as an old man with Grandbabies and a loving wife by your side. Don't see yourselve as someone running out of time see yourselve as one who if he stops drinking can live a long and loving life! It is so worth it for your children and your wife and YOU!Please stay in touch so we can talk. I'm still praying for you. It might be worth finding an AA meeting just to see. You can find others who have done this and survived and FOUND other things to take up that time. Playing ,singing, dancing, movies....There is SO much out there to live sober for not the least of which are your children who will see what you saw as a child if you don't stop. My husbands father and mother both drank threw him through walls beat the crap out of each other and well we all know that story. I am trying to save his children and him. You are on the path to save yourselve and your family. Keep it up you can DO THIS!!!! I don't know you but I love you and your strenght for doing this. Prayers.... Terri

[joey222]

dear lunch lady,
I am drunk and my body feels good!I dont know why I should tell you this, but it is sad that I had had to get drunk to get happy. I went to work all week and I had more respect FROM people being sober. They could see it in my I's
I know I was not on last night but I did not drink last night. I WAS sober for 5 days.
Sincerely,
Joey

[lunchlady]

Hi Joey,
Week-ends are the hardest! It's such a habit and for me because I do drink but I am not an alcholic I do it once in a while so I don't have to do anything else. I'm drunk I listen to music and I go to sleep and miss the rest of my night. For my husband to quit drinking I had quit drinking but when he drinks and I don't for him I get resentful when he sneeks and drinks and lies to me ( like I don't know) (Like you yourselve said everyone at work knew you were sober) and so once in a while I drink. You can still quit! My husband when he broke his hip it was midnight. He had surgery the next day. By the third day even though the hospital had him on librium he was in full detox. He saw things that weren't there, he thought I had put him in a mental hospital he had to be strapped to his bed and the wheel chair he could sit in. He yelled LOUD obsenitys at the top of his voice. I had to hold him down so he wouldn't ruin his hip they had just put pins in. It was the most horrible day I had ever spent and he was still strapped down the next morning when I came back after 12 hours of being there the day before. You don't want your wife to see this I promise you.It has really caused me to think if I want to stay here. If he continues to drink he will never go back to work and I cannot let him take me down with him. He has gone to work drunk he has lost jobs because he has gone to work drunk....He finally got to where he could take a pill in the morning work all day without drinking but then he would be drunk by the time he got home. I't a horrible life for the drunk and the spouse living it with them. If you want you can still quit. My son Joey after a short time in road camp for misdeameners has been clean now for 5 months. His vice was drugs but AA helped him come through this. If I could get my husband in this I would be more tempted to stay. At least I would have hope!!!Sometimes hope is all we have. My prayers are still with you and your family. Stay in touch all will be well.......lunchlady

[~graced~]

Lunchlady's right.....it's still a choice. You really CAN choose again.
Undoubtedly your body was 'happy' to be drunk. It was always a momentary fix to a long term problem for me. My problem was--my body was happy but the 'day after' came and I was clear how miserable I was.......until I drank again and once again I got 'happy'.
I couldn't sustain 'happy'.

Five days is awesome. Was a time I couldn't put three hours together without something in my system.
It wasn't a question of IF I could do it--it was the reality that I couldn't do it by myself.
I hated that other people got to be a part of the solution.
It messed with my plans to be the 'capable' one, thanksverymuch.
Today it's an awesome thing to know I need never be alone.
And I did feel horribly 'alone' before.......

That initial choice is one that only you get to make.
Know that if you decide you want different that there are plenty of folks who are willing to help you GET different.
Ain't necessarily 'easy'.......but it IS doable.

I hope you come back.
Cuz the choice will affect those very people you say you don't want to affect--it already is.

Be safe, stay well.....

[sj]

Agreed Joey. You can try again, and maybe go and see your doctor straight away, find an AA meeting, have everything set in place to give you the best opportunity at getting through it.
Good luck, keep calling in and let us know how you are getting on

[fauxglow]

I am a aclohic and have been for 25 yrs. I have been hospitalized several times and had only 1 yrs of soberity and 3 months recently I quit taken my antubuse and going to counseling and felt as I could do it on my own. I was wrong in the last month I started drinking sneak drinking and I have 2 black outs to where I do'nt remember anything and I am hurting my faimly. Last night I had a blackout and felt ashamed and frightened and I feel as I expierenced a desperation to start taking my antubuse I took it today and all I can do is take it one day at a time. I have taken action and joined today and admitted to my loved ones I have been living this secret once again and I am afraid they have given up hope on me because I relapsed. I feel as I need support. I have not told my best friend and I have fear when I tell her the truth I may loose a great friend.

Thank You
smiles

[caressa]

Sorry I didn't see your post earlier my friend. We do this program one day at a time and a day can start anytime. Support was so important for my recovery. I went to meetings and collected a lot of phone numbers. Picking up the phone was as important as reading the literature. I often felt like I was letting others down, but the person I hurt was me. I had to put myself on top of my amends list. Amend isn't about saying I'm sorry. It is about making changes and not making the same mistake over and over again. Just because I made a mistake doesn't mean I am one. I am human and God loves me just as I am. He gave me freedom of choice. Just for today, I choose to stay clean and sober.

Not being able to sleep is quite common. I know my first week of detoxing was a living hell. It was a remember when for when I had a thought of picking up, I never wanted to go through it again.

[carolsongs]

Hi Joey, I have a son name Joey, my name is carolyn Im new, when i saw your post It brought me back to those scary sleepless nights. Im sober 12years now, I know christian conceling helped I need someone who I could trust to guide me threw recovery faith I know the lord loves humility he WILL help you threw this if you ask him humbly, for a quick fix you can buy omega 3 fish oil it lowers your blood pressure and helps you relax and sleep you can buy it at any pharmacy you should also look into b12 vitamans to keep you out of the lows royal jelly is the best , another miracle vitaman is calcium magnesium the calcium helps to fight comfartably the detox the magnesium relaxes the muscles . drink lots of water and keep honey around, you can take a teasthingy when you feel nervous, alcohol breaks down to sugar your body is craving that sugar. honey will help, all i can say is you can trust that the lord has a better plan for you, sufferring is a part of growing, just know that on the other side of the sufferring is the life you are meant to have , happiness and joy too, not only sufferring hope this info helps God bless carolyn