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Post by caressa on Nov 30, 2007 18:15:38 GMT -5
What topics would you like discussed?
What do you need for your recovery?
Do you have any questions you would like answered?
If you don't know how or don't wish to post, send me a private message.
You are the most important people at this site.
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zoesam
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Post by zoesam on Jan 24, 2008 12:56:47 GMT -5
How do I get started? I've tried before but I need help.
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Post by caressa on Jan 25, 2008 12:49:15 GMT -5
How do you get started at what. Quitting your drug of choice or posting.
We do this one day at a time. Asking for help is the 1st Step. Feel free to private message me.
I was living at the YWCA and talked to my social worker there and through her counselling got into a treatment center. I detox by myself in my room at the Y, I didn't know that there was such a thing as a detox center and that I didn't have to do it alone. It was those five days of hell that I remember when I think of picking up. I never wanted to go through them again. When I got into treatment, I found 12 Step programs and have been going to them since then. That was in August 1991 and I haven't found it necessary to pick up since. I had tried my way for eight years before that, I could stop, but couldn't stay stopped.
Just keep coming, reading the posts here. There is a lot of good material posted here. If you feel like sharing, press reply and share your thoughts and questions to that post. If you don't find anything to answer your questions, click on NEW THREAD and a new window will open up and you can share your thoughts there. Each has a seperate section, but it doesn't matter where it is, it is more important that you share what is important for your recovery.
I am an addict, an alcoholic, an adult child of an alcoholic, and my drug of choice was always 'more' and it doesn't matter where I post I qualify. I have an eating disorder, my son is a self-admitted addict, and I have been known to get carried away with Nevada Tickets.
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Post by marysmith on Feb 19, 2008 3:38:46 GMT -5
I am new here..... I am 39 years old and have been fighting this problem all my life... I blame my husband but yet I am still drinking. I say, "Why cant you stay sober"? Yet I drink when he is not here... I drink 3 to 8 a night...Why cant I stay sober, why cant I stop drinking... I say my mom, my dad.... I am such a lier as I can still go to work... I am a functioning alcholoic... Does it make me better or worse... Answer back and help me>>>>. Please.......
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Post by caressa on Feb 19, 2008 5:17:00 GMT -5
For many years, I blamed my husband and my father for my drinking. My husband I kicked out and my father passed away as a result of his diesease, and I was alone and I was still drinking and taking prescription medication (dried up alcohol). When I hit my bottom, I was alone. No one was around for me to blame and I had to look at myself. I use to say, "If you ccan't beat 'em join 'em." It got so bad I had to be drunk to be around my husband. I couldn't accept life, and drinking was my coping tool. It stopped working for me and what had been my friend became my enemy. My disease increased, I kept having to have more and my pill addiction increased. I finally got to a stage where I was sick and tired of being tired and sick. I surrendered and reach out and asked for help. I was 49. Hopefully you won't have to continue drinking as long as I did. For me to drink is to die, I chose to live.
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Post by marysmith on Feb 28, 2008 2:37:35 GMT -5
I am new here.. This is my second time on line and I love all the topics I have found here. I am very busy and have no time for meetings for me. I am tired of taking care of everyone elses issues. I am tired of feeling like I am a mom to more than my 10 year old. I am tired of everyone being week around me and needed and draining me of my life energy. Is this selfish? Do I still hang on and try to help? I feel like I need to detach from the negitive and let him hit rock bottom... I see all these inspring messages here, but yet I am uninspired.. I lost my gift for seeing the things that gave me meaning. I have my daughter, who keeps me going, not a good place for a kid.... I also feel like I am losing the battle of my own addition as I am consumed by someone elses addition.. Any feedback is appreciated as most do not take alchol assumtion seriously... It is legal yea... 4 per night is OK right? Help is needed.
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Post by marysmith on Feb 28, 2008 2:49:27 GMT -5
For many years, I blamed my husband and my father for my drinking. My husband I kicked out and my father passed away as a result of his diesease, and I was alone and I was still drinking and taking prescription medication (dried up alcohol). When I hit my bottom, I was alone. No one was around for me to blame and I had to look at myself. I use to say, "If you ccan't beat 'em join 'em." It got so bad I had to be drunk to be around my husband. I couldn't accept life, and drinking was my coping tool. It stopped working for me and what had been my friend became my enemy. My disease increased, I kept having to have more and my pill addiction increased. I finally got to a stage where I was sick and tired of being tired and sick. I surrendered and reach out and asked for help. I was 49. Hopefully you won't have to continue drinking as long as I did. For me to drink is to die, I chose to live. |
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Post by marysmith on Feb 28, 2008 2:50:24 GMT -5
Thank you Caressa...
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Post by caressa on Feb 29, 2008 9:33:23 GMT -5
One of the reasons I got involved in service was to give back what was given to me. They said "If I didn't give my recovery away, I wouldn't keep it." This is a selfish program and your recovery comes first. I think it is about balance. It is important to have a life outside of the rooms. That is one of the reasons for recovery, to get a life and start living it and being a part of the word around us.
You can not help those who are willing to work a program. I have let go of several sponsee by saying, "If you aren't willing to work an AA program, I can't be an AA sponsor." I couldn't do it for them, all I could do was carry the message, and what they did with it was none of my business. In Al-Anon, they call it detachment. We don't give advice, tell them what to do, just share our experience, strength and hope.
A lot of the whinners made me grateful that wasn't were I was at. If you aren't enjoying recovery, what are you doing wrong? Have you done the Steps? Do you have a sponsor?
I found that my way wasn't always the right way for someone else, it was about what was good for me and my recovery. I took a little from one, none from another, and a lot from others. I was very involved for the first ten years of my life and then due to health issues, I couldn't go out there and do and the internet has been a way for me to do service in today.
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Post by blue01 on Apr 15, 2008 15:40:22 GMT -5
thanks am new to this been trying for years got me in a lot of trouble still is am comming off now feeling poorly hope to hear from you
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Post by penelope on Apr 15, 2008 17:10:33 GMT -5
Hi! I'm not new to all this but I am new to this site. I thought I had started a new thread but it must not have posted. Anyway, I am addicted to men who aren't emotionally available - my way of not having to be emotionally available - clever, eh? I divorced my husband of over 30 years to 'find' myself and here I am. This is not a quick fix deal - it takes a LOT of work and then you have just scratched the surface. I need to figure out a way to learn to trust myself and would like eventually to find a partner that I can have a full body and soul relationship with. I too am tired of looking for something outside myself in order to complete myself. I need to constantly remind myself that I am all I need to be - my happiness resides inside - not outside.
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Post by caressa on Apr 16, 2008 3:50:07 GMT -5
Thank you for sharing. I can identify. I always say my drug of choice was alcohol, men, pills, men, work, men, food, men, computers, men....
As you say, looking outside myself to make me feel better. My drug of choice was more! This is an inward journey, I travelled the other one for too many years.
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Post by caressa on Jan 18, 2009 21:56:19 GMT -5
To the new members here, please feel free to post anywhere and ask as many questions as you like. There is no such think as a stupid question. If you need direction in any way please ask. Click on my name or that of another member you identify with and send a private message if you need instructions to post.
We are here for you. You are the reason we are here and keep coming back.
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Post by caressa on Jul 28, 2009 17:39:39 GMT -5
Please feel free to post, even if it is to say hello. You don't have to have a fancy signature, although if you want one, we can help you out.
We share because we care, please keep coming back.
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. I will be back looking for Lin and others.