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Post by xjuliax on Aug 6, 2008 11:16:53 GMT -5
I've been recommended to this site and i'm in need of some advice.My partner is a recovering alcohlic and I am finding his sobriety quite difficult,I'm hoping for advice from others who are in this situation.I feel everything I do or say is wrong and would like to know if I should give up alcohol in support of my partner.  . |
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Post by SunnyGirl on Aug 6, 2008 13:53:14 GMT -5
Hi xjuliax....
Welcome to Essence of Recovery (EOR)
Al-Anon is a wonderful program that helps those
of us who have friends and family who are alchoholics.
One thing I learned many years ago, is that I never
give advice. I can share with you what I have learned
and things I have experienced with my "A".... Things that
have worked for me... Your job is to sort thru and find
the things that might help you in your own life.
Hope you have checked out the section for Al-Anon.
There is a lot of wisdom, strength and hope there.
You may want to consider going to a local meeting as well.
Glad you are here and keep coming back.....
Your friend in recovery, ~SunnyGirl~
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Post by MrDuck on Aug 6, 2008 20:03:05 GMT -5
Welcome to the site. I am Ron a grateful alcoholic from Minnesota. Thought I would say hi and a few words here as I don't check into the alaon or NA board. What ever I say is only my opinion which don't hold much water. For a true alcoholic gettting sober is rough. Not only for the alki but for those closely involved. For most us time and a lot of meetings help. As to if you have to stop drinking??? Only you can answer that one. Personally I think it is easier for the alki to get better with out it around. Maybe the question you should ask yourself is why do you need to drink? Have seem more than one that went to alanon or group meetings and found out that they themself are alcoholic. Hope you find what your looking for. Take care.
Ron
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Post by caressa on Aug 7, 2008 13:23:26 GMT -5
Welcome to the site. I am a recovering alcoholic as well as a daughter of an alcoholic, was married to an alcoholic and have a son who is a self-admitted alcoholic and addict.
There is good material on the Al-Anon and Nar-Anon sites. I go to Al-Anon and it was suggested that going to open meetings in AA helped to understand the alcoholic and get to know where he/she was coming from. An Al-Anon member of my group who has been in the program for over 40 years still goes to AA at least once a week and her husband has been deceased for a long time.
My Al-Anon sponsor likes her wine and that is okay. I just know that I can't drink safely. I don't know if that one drink will be enough and where it will take me. When my ex-husband quit drinking, I made the decision to quit drinking along with him. He quit for 9 months. I couldn't stop. I didn't drink much, I cut back, but the reality was, I couldn't stay stopped. I didn't know about AA or Al-Anon back then. When he went back to drinking, it was twice as bad as it was before and he became more abusive and our marriage ended. It took me another 9 years to find recovery for myself.
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"Win, loose, or draw I have had one hell of a lot of fun being here."
. I will be back looking for Lin and others.