Forgiving/Resentful

[caressa]

Today I am resentful of my son's actions last night. He phoned to say he wouldn't be coming by after work at his usual time. He showed up at my place at 2 p.m. He wasn't drunk, but I am sure he had been using something. He might have just been visiting his sometime girlfriend across the street and they had a tiff and he decided to come home to mom. He hasn't done that for a long time and it looks like I will have to reinforce another boundry that he chose to step over.

I had thought last night of turning off my phone so if he did show up, I wouldn't hear him call. I ended up not doing it because I was sitting up reading. I had a feeling he was going to come by. The difference in today is that I don't yell and scream like a banshee and carry on like I use to. It is his addiction and his journey. I just have to forgive myself for any part I played in it and not enable him.

[SunnyGirl]

I guess I am more on the forgiving side of this chip today.
I am not feeling resentful toward anyone ;D

One thing I have found is a useful way for me to reduce my
resentments, is to focus on how I contributed to the situation
and what I could have done to prevent it. In other words,
to take responsibility. I learned this after one particularly
in a painful situation between my Sister and I.

I try to stay out of situations that may cause resentments,
and keep my expectations to a minimum...... Hugs, SG