Sunday chip-----------Resentments

[MrDuck]

Ok. This is a first for me starting a chip.

I am not one to normally hold a resentment against someone or something. Noticed I said normally. But over the years there have been times when I have had them. Christmas time always messes that up for me. Just hard to have resentments this time of year. This year I don't have any resentments to get rid of . My dad and I didn't have much of a relationship. The last time I talked to him was the Christmas Eve before he died. The old timer that did the most to help me get and stay sober was on my hit list more than once ( and me on his at times to haha). But did call him one Christmas and thank him. Just to show that resentments can and do come back again a few years later called him at Christmas again to thank him. Resentments can be dealth with anytime of the year. Just seems more so for me at Christmas time. Good time of the year for me to clear out any left over ones that I haven't dealth with.

Merry Christmas to ya al.

Ron

[Lin]

Thanks RON! I used to have alot of rsentments..I resented my parents for what I considered that they had caused me to miss out on as a kid...nurturing, praise, approval, feeling safe to bring freinds voer without getting embarrassed, etc. I also resented my spouse for the lies he told..especially abotu his drinking. I also resented my brother becaue he thoguth he was perfet and shoudl always get his way.

In recovery I learned a resentment is like a cup of poison we prepare for others and end up drinking ourselves. For me that means....If i resent others, they probably will never even KNOW it. I will be the one who has to carry it aroudn and feel badly about it. SO the sooner I coudl pray for these people and to turn it over to my HP and let it go, the sooner I was able to be rid of the resentments.

I also have lerned to deal with the small stuff when it happens so it wont fester and build into a resentment!

Thanks for the chip!
LIN

[SunnyGirl]

Dec 14, 2008 10:13:51 GMT -5 MrDuck said:

Ok. This is a first for me starting a chip. Ron

And I am glad you did Ron! I do it daily only if one hasn't
been picked yet, and if I come online later it's always good
to see one up there.

Resentments....

Yep, I can see Christmas would be a good time to get rid of
grudges.

I'm a real work in progress when it comes to resentments.
Right now, I may not be able to change the things I resent,
but I can change my responses. I have to remember, not
everything is about me, I am trying not to take things
personally. My resentments don’t last as long or seem as
bad when I realize things are not personal.

I've had a loooooong and bumpy road when it comes to
my relationship with my younger sister. Today, I've chosen
to have no dealings with her, I love her, but I do not like
her. I don't know how I'll feel tomorrow!

Peace on the journey, SunnyGirl