SATURDAY CHIP---ASSERTIVE/SUBMISSIVE

[SunnyGirl]

SATURDAY CHIP---ASSERTIVE/SUBMISSIVE

I must have pulled this chip for a good reason, just not
clear yet on, why today? Or maybe there is something
coming up that I will have to use it

SUBMISSIVE: having or showing a tendency to submit
without resistance; docile; yielding

OK, I do not consider myself to be a submissive kinda gal.....
I am not a doormat and I have a lot of questions I will ask
before I will submit myself to what others think I should do.

ASSERTIVE: positive or confident in a persistent way

For the most part I am very opinionated and feel very
confident when I make a decision. In the beginning, I
am VERY certain & positive in my opinion and actions.

OK, maybe I am a tad bit wishy-washy every now and then......

I start out strong, but then I will second guess myself and
try to back out gracefully. Things I was 100% sure about
can waste away to a 50% surety in a matter of hours.
Guess I need to hesitate and think things all the way
through before I assert myself and make declarations of
certainty.

Just for today I tend to think more assertively..... SunnyGirl

[caressa]

I was assertive today, it is a good chip for me. As a result, my son has gone to visit a friend and I have my place to myself to watch my videos. He doesn't like them because they are a part of the Gaither Gospel Series and I am watching a tribute to Dottie Rambo who recently passed away. I love to have him visit but....

[Lin]

I am more of an assertive kind of person

I try to let others know what I need and at the same time take their feelings into account. I try to do it in a way that is not overbearing or bossy or pushy.

And example...one afternoon I asked Hubby where he wanted to go eat supper. He said..chinese buffet. I have a problem with chinese buffet...it's the General tso's Chicken. That is 19 points a cup and it is my favorite. I allow myself 19 points for the whole day...so going there woudl be much too great of a temptation to me. I thought of him..I thought of me and i suggested...
Do i hear you say you want a buffet because you are very hungry? He said..Yes..i hve not had lunch yet. I said..well..Chinese buffet is hard for me to stay on my food plan. COuld we compromise and go to ryan's steakhouse? They have a buffet and you can eat all you want and I can have fruits and veggies and grilled meats and stay on plan much easier. He said..Ryans will be great.

The way I said it...taking into account HIS feelings as well as letting him know MY feelings was being assertive. We both got what we wanted and nobody felt pushed into anything.

LIN