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Post by SunnyGirl on Jan 7, 2009 15:23:01 GMT -5
Wednesday Chip---Agreeable/Disagreeable Hmmmmmmm........ I'm hedging a bit here because I want to be honest, not for you, but for me.... OK, I can be pretty disagreeable at times. I much prefer to have things my own way, if not I've been known to pout until I get my way.  I sometimes think I do this just to prove I win them over. I will "agree to disagree" when not able to come to a conclusion, I won't argue but I don't often change my mind. dis⋅a⋅gree⋅a⋅ble....... -adjective 1. contrary to one's taste or liking; unpleasant; offensive; repugnant. 2. unpleasant in manner or nature; unamiable: a thoroughly disagreeable person. Geesh, the only term above that really sounds like me is "contrary to one's taste or liking". I don't think I am offensive or unpleasant about it. And even though I prefer to have my own way, I will give in and go along with the majority. Anyway, just for today I am trying to be agreeable, I can do anything for 24 hours. ;D Peace on the journey, SunnyGirl |
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Post by caressa on Jan 7, 2009 17:22:34 GMT -5
I think I am agreeable on the whole. It takes a lot for me to get really angry and when I do at least I can express it in a healthy way. I can walk away or be confrontational. Last night at bridge one of the ladies who moved to our table asked my partner if he was frazzled or upset. Her partner said, "Not with his partner, she is too easy going." I have been called Ms. Serenity, but that is on the outside, it isn't always that way inside.
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Post by SunnyGirl on Jan 7, 2009 18:05:00 GMT -5
((((((Caressa)))))))) I may disagree or be disagreeable at times, but I don't normally get angry. I strongly support pouting,  over anger anytime H.U.G.S. SunnyGirl |
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Post by caressa on Jan 7, 2009 20:40:40 GMT -5
Most times, I agree to disagree. It is easier that way. Don't do pout, have always had problems keeping my mouth shut to do the silent treatment, so I either walk away or say what is on my mind. Thankfully the mind doesn't think like it use to and I have learned to hesitate and meditate on occasion. Not always when I should, and sometimes I speak and then realize it was better left unsaid.
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Post by Lin on Jan 8, 2009 5:51:08 GMT -5
I feel I am more on t he agreeable side of this chip than the disagreeable. But as far as pouting. ...if my spouse is drinking and he's being stupid in his words and actions, I want to pout because I'd rather be doing other things than watching him be so stupid.
Exam ple...Tuesday I worked and then got a manicure. The minute I got home he asked me to drive him to his AA meeting to store a big bag of cups he ahd purchased. He told me I was driving because my car was warm. I had a suspicion that means..YOU drive because I ahve been drining. ONce we got out,with me driving, I coudl tell he was drinking. He was negative about everything I wanted to talk ablout. He di not want to go get something to eat and I was hungry. Instead he insisted we go to the mall so he could look at a gold chain he had ben eying. It was 2500. He was trying to get the guy to sell it for 900. The guy got it down to 1250 after a call to the boss. I was stayihng out of it but listening to how stupid he was acting. I then asked abotu the 100 coupon we have and they said to bring that back in a week and get another 100 off. I suggested we do that. He did not want to do that. He wanted to buy it right then for 900. I told him...stop arging with the man. He told you the boss said that was the best he can do. HE got furious. I was screamed at for the next hour ...how I butted in and ruined his chances of ever going in that store again. I jsut listened to his tirade and pouted. I did not want to be in the car with him. I wanted to eat somethign and stay out of his face. At least i was driving.
So i tried very hard to be agreeeable...going along with where he wanted to go....but enough is enough and then the pout started.
LIN
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Post by SunnyGirl on Jan 8, 2009 12:22:39 GMT -5
( ( ( ( ( Lin ) ) ) ) ) You were in a bad situation and you handled it well. I for one, wouldn't consider your response to him as "pouting". Anytime a person is around an active alkie and they become belligerent, angry, violent or so on, the best thing you can do is remove yourself from the situation. You were stuck between a rock and a hard place and you went into a defensive position, good for you. You withdrew yourself from the situation and remained silent, that's the best way I know of to defuse a situation like that. When I refereed to pouting I was being somewhat flip.... IMHO my pouting is a childish way to attempt to sway someones view, in hopes of getting my own way.  H.U.G.S. SunnyGirl |
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. I will be back looking for Lin and others.