Resentments

[SunnyGirl]

"Resentments are like peeing your pants--
they don't affect anyone quite as much as you!"

This slogan always makes me smile, it's just a little
crude, but it is absolutely true. I had a boat load of
resentments when I first found Nar-Anon and they
were beginning to sink my boat. Years of hanging
on to these resentments made for a pretty heavy
load. Picture loading all this crap, into a back pack
and walking around with it every single day.

To make a long story shorter, I had to let go of all
those resentments.....

I had to forgive the people I had resented for so long.....

I had to forgive myself and my part in all of it....

Letting go of the anger and resentments lifted an
immense weight off my back. It allowed me to begin the
healing process. Thank God for Nar-Anon and all
of the 12-recovery programs.....

Peace on the journey, SunnyGirl

[caressa]

Have never heard that saying, it is a good one. Resentment are killers. My biggest problem was with myself and the decisions I made along the way. One of my favorite says which I beat myself up with quite regularly is: "I can't stand stupidity, especially in myself." Just getting by the word stupid was difficult because I had been told all my life I was. What helped was being told that "Just because you did something stupid, doesn't mean you are stupid." I was always getting angry at myself because I don't live up to my own expectations. In today, I don't make them so high and don't take on that of others so my resentments are fewer and thankfully I can recognize them for what they are today and deal with them.

[Lin]

I have also never heard this saying,...but I plan to remember it!
My favorite saying about resentments is:
A resentment is a cup of poison we prepare for another but end up drinking ourselves.

That rings true for me. When I hold a resentment over another person that person rarely even knows about it. That person does not even feel the effects. I am the one eating up and beijng miserable over it.

Letting them go, praying for that person, really heled me.
LIN

[caressa]

Praying for the person helped me too although I had trouble with the concept at first. I was one of those people who said, "I hope he/she gets all that they deserve." My sponsor said, "That is not the right attitude. Pray for health, happiness, prosperity and a spiritual awakening so they can't continue doing what they are doing.

[majestyjo]

So grateful that prayer works.

[majestyjo]

Ask they say Lin, it isn't about what we eat, but what is eating away at us.

Who are we allowing free rental space in our heads.

Who is occupying most of our thoughts and don't even know.they are there.