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Post by SunnyGirl on Jan 13, 2009 18:10:14 GMT -5
A is for: Acceptance
Acceptance is the key. When I can accept myself
for who I am, I can start to love myself again.
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Post by caressa on Jan 13, 2009 18:48:20 GMT -5
B is for Boundries. Just for today, I will respect myself by setting boundaries.
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Post by SunnyGirl on Jan 14, 2009 15:38:52 GMT -5
C is for: Changes
Nothing Changes if nothing Changes......
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Post by caressa on Jan 14, 2009 16:59:52 GMT -5
D is for Denial. A blanket I pull on when I am unable to deal with something in the moment. A defense mechanism that I am not always aware of, which is a good reason to have a sponsor, a close friend, and/or a spiritual advisor who can help me to determine what is going on in my life.
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Post by SunnyGirl on Jan 16, 2009 23:44:44 GMT -5
E is for: Easy Does It
Easy Does It, helps me to remember that trying
to force a solutions very rarely works.
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Post by caressa on Jan 17, 2009 5:28:41 GMT -5
F is for Faith. I have faith that things will turn out in the long run. I may not be able to see the end of the journey or the solution in the moment, but I know it is there. When it is time to know, it will be given to me. When I feed my Spirit with spiritual food, I have the faith that I wil have the inner knowingness I need to move forward with my life.
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Post by SunnyGirl on Jan 18, 2009 14:26:53 GMT -5
G is for: "But For The Grace Of God"
"But For The Grace Of God” helps to remind me, to be
patient and compassionate with others. It helps me to
avoid becoming resentful and mean spirited, which
hurts me as well as others.
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Post by caressa on Jan 18, 2009 14:45:00 GMT -5
H is for Honesty. When I can't be honest with myself, I need to call my sponsor. Unfortunately mine is spending six weeks in Florida. Many times I think I am honest, and I can tell you what I honestly think I am feeling, and yet, I could have on the blanket of denial and not want to see what is obvious to others. It is a disease of perception. When this happens, I have to have an honest talk with my Higher Power.
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Post by dlg333 on Jan 19, 2009 19:06:03 GMT -5
I just registered and can't figure out how to write something or where best to write it.
I would welcome feedback on my sharing. This is one of those moments when I am trying to respond to something that is disturbing me from a place other than the one I want to and would chose ti if I wasn't trying to start making some changes in my life.
Mainly practicing the spirituality I say I have, but often my actions don't reflect. I received a phone call from a friend telling me that her brother in law, who works where I do in the human resource dept, was passing around a negative email he was copied on about a job I applied for. Apparently it was not singing my praises and he thought it would make fun Christmas reading as the whole family knows me. Because he works in HR, I do not, he is privy to such emails. Though it is against company policy he printed it and shared it. Well my friend told me about it tonight. I have vacillated between trying to get him fired, trying to talk with him rationally about his motives, or trying to ignore it.
I was in my kitchen a few minutes ago when the thought, forgive him came into my mind. It felt good to think it, but I am not sure what that will look like. Does forgive fall in the ignore it option?
I want to do what would benefit me in my quest for living life from my higher self, but have a lot of emotions swirling around.
Any suggestions?
Thanks, dlg333
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Post by MrDuck on Jan 19, 2009 19:51:49 GMT -5
A lot of times I don't think there is a pat answer for things. But ever works best for the individual must be the right way. Can think of few different ways to handle it and guess others have lots more. You could confront him and stay with the facts that it was not professional on his part. You could write him a letter and either mail it to him or tear it up afterwards.
I don't know enough about the situation to know exactually what I personally would do. But I do know this. I am not a door mat. It took me a fair amount of time being sober working the program to be able to confront someone in person and stay cool, use approperate words and stay with the facts and key issues. Old days it use to be easier to call someone some names and get into a heated arguement.
Sometimes I just consider the source and be thankful that I am not them. That I don't have to use someone else to make me feel good. I learned that people that do that stuff are sick also. And I hope I don't get that sick.
I know one thing before I confront someone the first thing I have to do is let my emotions and temper settle down. Otherwise there is no way that I will stick with the main issues.
Wish you best in how ever you handle it.
Ron
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Post by caressa on Jan 19, 2009 20:50:03 GMT -5
For me, it is about being honest with myself. My sponsor always said to inventory my side of the street and look at what was good for me. I agree with Ron that it might be good to confront him with the issue and let him know his behavior was unacceptable to you. How you choose to do it is what you need to do to validate yourself. I certainly would do the prayer thing and get rid of any resentment. You can forgive the person but that doesn't make the act alright. Sounds like he was way out of line and very unprofessional.
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Post by SunnyGirl on Jan 19, 2009 23:12:40 GMT -5
Hi Dlg33 Welcome to Essence of Recovery, glad you found us! Lots of good recovery going on here and many tools to help us on the road to recovery. I have always leaned on the premise, "to thine own self be true". I don't allow myself to be bullied and I don't bully other people. I am willing to reach out in kindness to help anyone, expecting nothing in return. I treat people with respect and I appreciate being treated in the same way. Some people are just plain mean and spiteful, I try to avoid them as much as possible. If my neighbor tried to steal my car, I would call the police. If my employer made inappropriate remarks to me, I would file a complaint. Harboring anger only hurts me! I will pray for those that might want to hurt me, but I make every effort to protect myself. Whenever I am in doubt about a situation, I pray on it. I also make it a habit to sleep on it before I act on it. Hope this helpful... Your friend in recovery, SunnyGirl p.s. "Keep coming back"  |
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Post by SunnyGirl on Jan 20, 2009 15:09:30 GMT -5
I is for.... Isolating
The trouble with staying home and Isolating
is you get a lot of bad advice.
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Post by caressa on Jan 20, 2009 15:27:15 GMT -5
J is for Judgment. I stopped playing God a long time ago. I just try to make things right with Him. It doesn't profit me to try to justify my existance or reason for being.
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Post by caressa on Jan 21, 2009 13:46:37 GMT -5
K is for Kiss. Keep It Simple Sweetheart (Stupid)  It is better to stay in the positive instead of the negative. |
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Post by SunnyGirl on Jan 21, 2009 14:31:12 GMT -5
L is for: "Let Go and Let GOD"
“Let Go And Let GOD” , reminds me that I can not control,
people, places or things. It reminds me, when I've run out
of options, I can always put my trust in GOD. If HE led me
to it, HE'll get me thru it......
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Post by caressa on Jan 22, 2009 11:08:37 GMT -5
M is for Moments. When I live in the moment, I learn to cherish them.
There are no musts in the program, but there are some darn well betters. One of them is living in today, one day at a time, and living for the moment to eliminate indecision and chaos.
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Post by caressa on Jan 23, 2009 7:44:51 GMT -5
N is for No longer alone. This is the thought I saw when I saw this picture this morning. She looks so lost and I could identify with those feeling and reminded me how numb and clueless I felt when I came into the rooms of recovery. I was afraid to ask questions in case you wouldn't accept or like me and you would ask me leave. I was afraid of putting the wrong foot forward after all I was a nobody and you didn't know me and if you did you really wouldn't like me.  |
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Post by SunnyGirl on Jan 23, 2009 15:00:41 GMT -5
O is for: One Day At A Time
“One Day At A Time” allows me to deal with my fears
and obstacles a little at a time, taking baby steps.
I don't have to solve all life's problems TODAY!
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Post by caressa on Jan 23, 2009 23:30:22 GMT -5
P is for Practice. This is a program of practice, practice, practice.... Because it is progress, not perfection, I need to practice the principles in all of my affairs.
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