TUESDAY'S CHIP - Kind/Unkind

[caressa]

Ther person I wasn't kind to was myself. I was my own worst enemy. Recovery gave me the healing to love and care for myself. I was told to be my own best friend.

I was told to give myself a hug. I was worthwhile and the people in the program loved me until I could like and love myself.

What I put out comes back to me kind, sometimes it seems like it is two-fold. It takes less energy and has more rewards to be positive instead of negative.

[SunnyGirl]

Re: TUESDAY'S CHIP - Kind/Unkind

I try always to be kind, to myself and those I meet
through the day. I love the Al-Anon saying.....

"Say What You Mean, Mean What You Say, But Don't Say It Mean!"

I am a believer in Karma! When I do, or say hurtful things
to others, it will inevitably come back on me. When I complain
about what others are doing, I need to look inside myself
to make sure I am beyond reproach.

Judging others, is not my job. I am responsible only for
myself. Today, it's easier for me to offer kindness to others
and accept people, even when I disagree with them.

"Just for today, I will adjust myself to what is,
and not try to adjust everything to my own
desires. I will take my "luck" as it comes,
and fit myself to it."

"Live And Let Live"..... SunnyGirl

[MrDuck]

I am on the kind side. More so a sucker for elderly, kids, and animals. I think it is something that I learned from parents. They were on the kind side to. Maybe it is something that was pasted down. One time I was giving my 2nd son a ride home from school and it had just got done snowing. I asked him if he wanted to make some money blowing snow for me. He said sure. I told to blow the neighbors driveway and sidewalks for them and I would pay him. He asked me way I would pay him to do that. I told him the neighbor was was 80 ages old had 5 heartattacks and not smart enough not to try do it himself. That I was in no mood to come home and find him dead. The kid said, oh heck dad I will do their's for nothing. I said, how about mine? He smiled and said, Naw dad. You can pay me. :-) But I thought it was really nice of him to do that for them. I have 3 kids and their are all that way. Hoping it flows though to my little buddy.

Have a great day,

Ron

[Lin]

I try my best to be kind in "thbougth, word and deed". I think that ws something I learned in Girl Scouts while growing up. I don't think it was passed on by parents. I picked it up myself.

The quote "do unto others as you woudl have them do unto you" was what I learned at church and Sunday School. So being kind was what I strived for.

However...there are times when my alanon gets a little out of balance ....those times when I think somebody ahs wronged me and I tend to get a bit reactive. My spouse calls it an alanon episode.

My first and probably largest episode was about 1990. We had lbought a thunderbird andwe decided to trade it in. It has only abotu 11,000 miles on it. We went to buy a new one. We picked it out, signed the papers and then went to help my sister move from her apartment into her house. We told them we'd be back abotu 1 to get it. We got back at 3 and they did nt have the car ready. They had not even started on the paperwork. I was tired. I was hungry. I wanted my new car and to go home. So I told them..jsut give me back the old one and I'll keep it a while. Too late. The salesman had called a buddy, sold it to him, processed the old one and it was gone. I had quite a hissy fit. I spoke to t he owner of the dealership, and to the salesman and I was not kind.

We finally got out car abotu 4, but it was the last one we bought from that dealer. We have bought 29 new cars from another dealer now, so that dealer who buried my paperwork as if I was not an important customer has missed out on many sales.

For the most part I am KIND.

LIN

[caressa]

I have also had to look at my motive and my intent behind the kindness. Do I want someone to love and accept me or am I doing it out of love and a sense of giving. Am I wanting something in return or is it a committment without attachment. Being kind doesn't always mean saying yes.