Aware of others/Self-centered

[SunnyGirl]

Tuesday Chip: Aware of others/Self-centered

I try to anticipate what my loved ones want and need from
me. Many times it would be better to wait and allow them
to ask for what they want.

As a result of my anticipating, I expect them to offer me
what I need. OK, here I go again with expectations, I end
up disappointed. I ought to take the high ground and give
myself what I need, therefore eliminating a need for
clairvoyance. Most people can't read minds!

Today I want to be aware of any kind words or deeds, I
can do to make others happy. But I also won't allow all my
needs to be pushed to the back of the bus......

Peace on the journey, SunnyGirl

[caressa]

Expectations have always been killers for me. A light went on one day when I realized that I was putting them on others who were not capable of meeting them. I had trouble with the ones I put on myself, how can I expect others to meet them if I couldn't.

This was a program of enlightenment for me. The awareness of what is going on around me and with others was a real gift. Sometimes though I do admit to wishing I didn't know. Even with the knowingness it isn't my job to make others aware and it is something they have to find for themselves. I can share my esh and pray, nothing more, nothing less.

I do care for others. My sponsor said it was okay as long as I looked after me first. It is just not the self-centeredness of my addiction and life before have the tools of the 12 Steps and Traditions. I found I get out of self when I work the Traditions into my life.

[Ron]

Aware of others/Self-centered

I am very aware of what others need. I have always had respect for people. I learned years ago that if you help others get what they want you get want you want. That does mean that I am just going to give others everything. There is an old Chinesse proverb that says "you can feed a man fish every day. Or you can teach man to fish and feed himself." I work on the last part of it.

Have a great day,

Ron