Post by caressa on Jan 28, 2009 6:42:04 GMT -5
My bridge partner reminded me that I could be just a little self-righteous last night. He said, "I know you are a better player but the way I was taught in 'Easy Bridge' you should have....
I informed him that I didn't take Easy Bridge and that was probably why we didn't always communicate. He was sure he was right but I had trouble accepting his reasoning.
I did miss a couple of bids myself and admitted to them. Once he said, "You didn't trust your partner." I am afraid I agreed by not disagreeing. We are complete opposites and he takes a long time to make a decision. The problem I am finding that when he makes it, it is often the wrong one and we end up in the wrong contract. We haven't been playing together very long and now I am having second thought about continuing to be his partner. I think he asked me to play hoping to get some point credits and I realized that he is using me to better his game. That is okay, but it can only go so far, you still have to communicate with each other. How to find a good partner? Be one!
It has been a good test of patience and tolerance for me. Learning to keep my mouth shut sometimes and in others take the risk and go for it because I know for the most part he won't. I thought I was bad at justifying but I think he has me beat.
Sorry if you don't relate to this. Although I think any game you play, any relationship you are in, requires communication, acceptance, and trust or you don't have much to build on. As one of the fellows that played against us said, "You had a great game on Saturday. You play better by yourself than you do with a partner." Unfortunately, sometimes that is all too true. My partner reminded me that when I learned bridge it was many years ago and the game has changed. Like everything else, I have been open to learning to ways but there are some I still hang onto. Case in point: He told me I should have counted 3 points for a singleton when you have a contract fit with your partner. I was always told it was only worth 2. I guess that indicates that I don't want to give my partner any credit.
Maybe that is why it took me 2 husbands to get 10 years of marriage.
I informed him that I didn't take Easy Bridge and that was probably why we didn't always communicate. He was sure he was right but I had trouble accepting his reasoning.
I did miss a couple of bids myself and admitted to them. Once he said, "You didn't trust your partner." I am afraid I agreed by not disagreeing. We are complete opposites and he takes a long time to make a decision. The problem I am finding that when he makes it, it is often the wrong one and we end up in the wrong contract. We haven't been playing together very long and now I am having second thought about continuing to be his partner. I think he asked me to play hoping to get some point credits and I realized that he is using me to better his game. That is okay, but it can only go so far, you still have to communicate with each other. How to find a good partner? Be one!
It has been a good test of patience and tolerance for me. Learning to keep my mouth shut sometimes and in others take the risk and go for it because I know for the most part he won't. I thought I was bad at justifying but I think he has me beat.
Sorry if you don't relate to this. Although I think any game you play, any relationship you are in, requires communication, acceptance, and trust or you don't have much to build on. As one of the fellows that played against us said, "You had a great game on Saturday. You play better by yourself than you do with a partner." Unfortunately, sometimes that is all too true. My partner reminded me that when I learned bridge it was many years ago and the game has changed. Like everything else, I have been open to learning to ways but there are some I still hang onto. Case in point: He told me I should have counted 3 points for a singleton when you have a contract fit with your partner. I was always told it was only worth 2. I guess that indicates that I don't want to give my partner any credit.
Maybe that is why it took me 2 husbands to get 10 years of marriage.
. I will be back looking for Lin and others.