Post by SunnyGirl on Nov 14, 2008 16:14:08 GMT -5
Difficult People
Very often in life we come across difficult people. I regard difficult people
as being; ''those amongst us whom we find it hard to get along with.''
Difficult people come in all ages, races, and sexes. When I use the term
''difficult people'', I do not believe that being difficult is a permanent
personality trait. Although, some people do seem to be difficult the whole
of their lives, I believe that being a difficult person is usually a temporary
state, and so people often go through phases when they become difficult
at various stages in their lives. Every difficult person has the potential to
think, act, and behave otherwise.
Most of us live or work closely with someone whom we regard to be a
difficult person. What makes the difficult person most difficult to deal with,
is that they seem to be against us, and this can make us feel that the difficult
person is causing us misery. Difficult people tend to come across as very
selfish, and only interested in getting their own needs met. This can make
them less likely to compromise, and often it seems that they do not even try
to see things from anyone else's point of view. For a caring, and giving person,
who believes in equality and sharing, the difficult person can evoke feelings
of anger, due to their ego-centric attitude. The difficult person is usually happy
to impose themselves upon others, yet they are unwilling to give an inch to
anyone else. The difficult person will do anything to get their way, this may
often including lying and cheating.
If the difficult person is your child you may find her unbearable, if the difficult
person is your boss you may find her detestable, if the difficult person is your
sister you may find her unlovable, if the difficult person is your parent you may
find them annoying, if the difficult person is your partner you may find them
frustrating. Whenever we are in a relationship with a difficult person, we can
often find our spirits have been dampened to a high degree, and that we have
been left feeling full of negativity, or resentment.
The difficult person is like a wounded animal, they are people who are
fundamentally hurt deep down and do not feel that they are worth very much.
In order to feel better about themselves they often use other people. For this
reason the difficult person chooses to engage in behaviours that are labour
intensive for other people, they often demand that others bend over backwards
to please them, but refuse to give back very much in return.
Difficult people feel that they are owed good treatment and hence demand that
others have a duty to treat them well. This attitude can lead the difficult person
to become very angry if their needs are not met, and when their inappropriate
actions are not forgiven without question.
The path to dealing with a difficult person is varied, as each difficult person has
their own reason for being difficult, however, there is one common starting place
and that starting place is love. Difficult people challenge us to give love regardless.
They challenge our ability to engage in unconditional love. Many will ask,
''but how can I love someone who is go disagreeable? How can I love someone
who has hurt me?''
The answer is very simple, you just do.
Author unknown
Very often in life we come across difficult people. I regard difficult people
as being; ''those amongst us whom we find it hard to get along with.''
Difficult people come in all ages, races, and sexes. When I use the term
''difficult people'', I do not believe that being difficult is a permanent
personality trait. Although, some people do seem to be difficult the whole
of their lives, I believe that being a difficult person is usually a temporary
state, and so people often go through phases when they become difficult
at various stages in their lives. Every difficult person has the potential to
think, act, and behave otherwise.
Most of us live or work closely with someone whom we regard to be a
difficult person. What makes the difficult person most difficult to deal with,
is that they seem to be against us, and this can make us feel that the difficult
person is causing us misery. Difficult people tend to come across as very
selfish, and only interested in getting their own needs met. This can make
them less likely to compromise, and often it seems that they do not even try
to see things from anyone else's point of view. For a caring, and giving person,
who believes in equality and sharing, the difficult person can evoke feelings
of anger, due to their ego-centric attitude. The difficult person is usually happy
to impose themselves upon others, yet they are unwilling to give an inch to
anyone else. The difficult person will do anything to get their way, this may
often including lying and cheating.
If the difficult person is your child you may find her unbearable, if the difficult
person is your boss you may find her detestable, if the difficult person is your
sister you may find her unlovable, if the difficult person is your parent you may
find them annoying, if the difficult person is your partner you may find them
frustrating. Whenever we are in a relationship with a difficult person, we can
often find our spirits have been dampened to a high degree, and that we have
been left feeling full of negativity, or resentment.
The difficult person is like a wounded animal, they are people who are
fundamentally hurt deep down and do not feel that they are worth very much.
In order to feel better about themselves they often use other people. For this
reason the difficult person chooses to engage in behaviours that are labour
intensive for other people, they often demand that others bend over backwards
to please them, but refuse to give back very much in return.
Difficult people feel that they are owed good treatment and hence demand that
others have a duty to treat them well. This attitude can lead the difficult person
to become very angry if their needs are not met, and when their inappropriate
actions are not forgiven without question.
The path to dealing with a difficult person is varied, as each difficult person has
their own reason for being difficult, however, there is one common starting place
and that starting place is love. Difficult people challenge us to give love regardless.
They challenge our ability to engage in unconditional love. Many will ask,
''but how can I love someone who is go disagreeable? How can I love someone
who has hurt me?''
The answer is very simple, you just do.
Author unknown
. I will be back looking for Lin and others.