WEDNESDAY CHIP---RUDE /POLITE

[SunnyGirl]

WEDNESDAY CHIP---RUDE /POLITE

The chip I chose today is really about choices….

I have the power to choose what my attitude
will be toward a rude person. I can take it with
a grain of salt and choose to ignore or turn the
other cheek. I can choose to become confrontational,
and tell them exactly what I think of their behavior.
Or I can choose to be rude in return, with the thought
I’ll show them.

My favorite response when someone is rude to me
is to “killem with kindness” …. In truth, I have
chosen to react in each of the ways listed and some
left me feeling cranky and miserable all day.
When I respond with kindness and make a good choice,
chances are I’m going to have a great day.

Today I choose to stay on the polite side of this chip
and treat others the way I'd like to be treated...

Peace on the journey, SunnyGirl

[caressa]

To me there is no excuse for rudeness. I believe it is good to be open and for the most part, I tell it as it is. I think a lot is in the way it is said and how it is done. Good manners go a long way.

I find this at the bridge tables. They don't have program. I am glad that I can put my into action when it happens and not react like I use to. One woman is so rude my partner has trouble biting his tongue and when the hand is over he immediately gets up and walks away and leaves the table. He just doesn't want to be in the same space with her.

Just yesterday I was asking someone, "Why do people feel like they have a right to tell me what to do with my life and what I can and cannot do." Some of it is done with good intent while others are about control, game playing, a closed mind, and active addiction. I can either detach from it and often do until I can find some acceptance of the situation. I just try not to feed into it, let it stop being who I am, and if it is good for me, I stay or walk away. The woman use to be my bridge partner. In today, I would not ask her to be my partner under any circumstances and yet I go into individual tournaments and there are times that she is my partner and I have no control over it. I just don't let her be her usual rude self and have stood up for the people she has been derogatory towards, which included a 90 year old woman who I was partnering one night. She has a problem with hearing my voice and she continually says she can't here me. It is how she says it that is hurtful. My partner can hear and he is the dummy and the one who has to know. My voice is soft and I don't speak very loud although I have learned to project it when needed. I believe it comes from years of abuse and I have to give myself permission to speak out and speak my mind. I have never done that well. Sometimes, in today I can overcompensate, but God and I are working on that one too.