Control

[caressa]

No human creature can give orders to love.
--George Sand

If we're trying to get others to love us, all we're really doing is trying to be in control. Trying to control others can be a powerful drug. Remember, we can't control others. We can't make others love us. Our Higher Power has control, not us.

So, what do we need to do? Turn things over to our Higher Power and just be ourselves. Sure, it can scare us to just be ourselves. The truth is, not everyone will love us. But if we're honest about who we are, others will respect us. We'll like ourselves better. And we'll have a better chance of loving others and being loved.

Prayer for the Day

I pray to have my need for control lifted from me. I pray to be rid of self-will.

Action for the Day

Today, I'll list five ways my self-will - my need to control - has gotten me in trouble.

[caressa]

This is an old post that I found in one of my mail boxes. It spoke to me and brought back a lot of memories.

It reminded me of the number of times I would call someone to try to get attention, try to find acceptance, try to receive validation, all because I was insecure about myself. I would try to control so I wouldn't get hurt, yet I had no control over people, places and things.

[majestyjo]

Yep, remember those days. Glad I don't have to go back there in today. We can make ourselves very dick fixating on ourselves.