Post by SunnyGirl on May 28, 2009 12:43:35 GMT -5
Choices
We have choices, more choices than we let ourselves see.
We may feel trapped in our relationships, our jobs, our life.
We may feel locked into behaviors -- such as caretaking or
controlling. Feeling trapped is a symptom of codependency.
When we hear ourselves say, "I have to take care of this
person...", "I have to say yes...." ,"I have to try to control
that person...", "I have to behave this way, think this way,
feel this way..." we can know we are choosing not to see choices.
That sense of being trapped is an illusion. We are not
controlled by circumstances, our past, the expectations
of others or our unhealthy expectations for ourselves.
We can choose what feels right for us, without guilt. We
have options.
Recovery is not about behaving perfectly or according to
anyone else's rules. More than anything else; recovery is
about knowing we have choices and giving ourselves the
freedom to choose.
---Melody Beattie
"Language of Letting Go"
We have choices, more choices than we let ourselves see.
We may feel trapped in our relationships, our jobs, our life.
We may feel locked into behaviors -- such as caretaking or
controlling. Feeling trapped is a symptom of codependency.
When we hear ourselves say, "I have to take care of this
person...", "I have to say yes...." ,"I have to try to control
that person...", "I have to behave this way, think this way,
feel this way..." we can know we are choosing not to see choices.
That sense of being trapped is an illusion. We are not
controlled by circumstances, our past, the expectations
of others or our unhealthy expectations for ourselves.
We can choose what feels right for us, without guilt. We
have options.
Recovery is not about behaving perfectly or according to
anyone else's rules. More than anything else; recovery is
about knowing we have choices and giving ourselves the
freedom to choose.
---Melody Beattie
"Language of Letting Go"
. I will be back looking for Lin and others.