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Post by SunnyGirl on Jun 12, 2009 12:56:37 GMT -5
"Live and Let Live"
I was so upset about my younger Sis (my qualifier) yesterday
and I read and reread much of the information in the Nar-Anon
workshop. It was an eyeopener for me... One of those light
bulb moments, that reminded me that I may know what to
do when my serenity is disturbed but I need to reach for the
tools immediately.
Live and let live is one of the keys that jumped out at me. It is
the key that brings peace into our lives. When we practice tolerance
in our lives we are liberated to work on our own issues. If I had
reached for this slogan right away, I could have put an end
to my negative thoughts and ended my conflicted thoughts much
sooner than I did.
Nar-Anon really is a simple program, it's me that keeps
complicating it.... Keep It Simple Sweetie
Love to each..... SunnyGirl
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Post by caressa on Jun 12, 2009 16:20:19 GMT -5
Love this slogan ever since my sponsor told me the key word was the first one. Live my own life, no longer put it on hold for someone else, no longer looking at the other person to see what they would do, no longer sitting home worrying about what they were doing, but going out and doing for myself.
Friday night bridge has been a good way for me to do that. It is my son's pay day and it allows me to go out, have fun, concentrate on my game and not worry about him out there staying alive and well. So many times I would work myself in to a frazzle and I would be paralyzed and unable to do for myself. All I would do is sit and stew. What is he doing? What is he up to? Was that siren for him? Should I call the hospital? Should I call the police. Went through the same thing with my ex-husband. I am glad that today I have program. It was a hell I don't want to repeat. It helps me to remember when and know that I have a choice, an option to stay in it or get myself out.
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Post by SunnyGirl on Jun 13, 2009 11:17:31 GMT -5
I know what you mean about your son, I try not to worry
about mine and distraction can usually work in my favor.
With my sister it's a little easier with her being miles away,
we don't talk every day, so leaving the ball in her court
works for me most times. I just get so frustrated when I
see her taking advantage of my Mom (who has dementia).
Not sure she is really causing emotional pain to her, but
it's the taking advantage of a person in this condition that
annoys me the most.
Ok fine, I've put this down now and will not rehash it for
the rest of the day.... Have no idea what tomorrow will
bring, but I am going to be looking at the rose, not the thorns.
Have a great day, SunnyGirl
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Post by mrsspanish on Jun 14, 2009 17:40:17 GMT -5
i love this slogan too. it took me a long time to internalize it but when i finally did, boy, does it work!
hugs
doris
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Post by SunnyGirl on Jun 16, 2009 10:35:41 GMT -5
Thanks for the replies ladies.... On my journey to recovery, I have had many momentary slips.... Slips where I really truly thought I had all the answers and if my addicted loved ones would just listen to me.  But, once again I have had to back away and allow them to do what addicts do.... Their life choices are not choices I would make for them, but they did not ask for a hand up. I often wonder if God doesn't chuckle, when I make an attempt to fix things. I have to work hard daily to retain my progress and after all these years it's easier but not easy.... ODAT Peace on the journey, SunnyGirl |
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Post by dg on Jun 17, 2009 12:08:01 GMT -5
This slogan really lives up to its words. I love it mainly because it is a good nudge moment when you really need it the most.
My other fav is Let go and Let God. As often as I hit a bump in the road with the little things that slows me down, be anything from dealign with an ex addict to normal everyday bumps in the road, just saying the slogan can calm my nerves.
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Post by SunnyGirl on Jun 17, 2009 14:24:51 GMT -5
Mornin Dg... Thanks for sharing..... Let go and Let God is probably my most used slogan... I need that constant reminder that I can't, HE can, so I'm gonna let HIM...... I still have those sudden urges to "help" fix my addicted loved ones  ... so letting go is my only answer! Luv ya girl.... Cherie |
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Post by caressa on Jun 17, 2009 17:18:17 GMT -5
How often I know the words but get caught up in the moment and how quickly I can forget. That is why I like sharing here. The words come out and put order to my thoughts and I can see where I am at and if I don't others will point it out! That is good. It is so much easier to see it in others and know what is good for them. How easy it is to forget that this is a program of reflection.
Love "Letting Go and Letting God." My problem is keeping it with Him and not taking it back.
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Post by SunnyGirl on Jun 17, 2009 22:16:40 GMT -5
Reminds me of the last verse from the poem "Broken Dreams" poem....
"My child," HE said. "What could I do? You never did let go."
I guess we are all guilty of that from time to time....
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Hugs, Doris
~With Peace & Love, dg~ 8*)[/b][/size]
... so letting go is