How Important is It?

[SunnyGirl]

How Important is It?

So many times early in my recovery, I would make a mountain out
of the proverbial "mole hill". I had to learn how to recognize the
difference between a "minor inconvenience and a major crisis". I
learned to use the slogan, "How important is it", to rationalize
and regain a sense of proportion.

Many years have gone by and I am much better at recognizing
and preventing meltdowns. I try to avoid being a drama queen!

“Don't Make Assumptions. Find the courage to ask questions and
to express what you really want. Communicate with others as
clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and
drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely
transform your life.” - - Don Miguel Ruiz

Learning to reason situations out instead of reacting to them
has helped me immensely. Blowing situations out of proportion
can become a habit! In the grand scheme of life, "how important
is it" has helped me over some major hurdles. Take a moment
before you decide how you want to react.....

Peace on the journey, SunnyGirl

[caressa]

Have used the slogan, but not so often in the context you have used, for me it was "Hesitate and Meditate." Stop and think before I react. Sometimes using the "How Important is it?" I found myself discounting myself and my needs. Sometimes you just need to stand up and be counted, other times it is much better to just let go and not worth the hassle and the controversy to argue or make your point.

How Important Is It? is something I use when I make a decision to do something or go somewhere. If going there jeoprodizes my sobriety, is it in my best interest to go there. Sobriety meaning soundness of mind, not necessarily meaning that I will drink as a result of going there.

[SunnyGirl]

In my recovery, this saying does help me to remember to
weigh situations. Determining whether I need to stand
my ground or let it slide, THINK goes hand in hand with it.

I would be selfish if I never considered what other people
in my life want or need. But, I no longer push my needs
to the back of the line..... Taking care of me is a full time job,
I don't depend on others to give me what I need.

Have a great day..... SG

[caressa]

"Walk Softly and Carry a Big Book" - Book

You used to be good at being bad. Now you're going to get good a being good.

Still guilty of saying, "Since when have you known me to do what is always good for me?" When I hear myself saying that, I know it is time to pray and ask for an attitude adjustment.

Time for Joy - Book - Quote

Today I will stop and ask, 'How important is it?'

Some how I often see this differently than others. They can pooh whoo something away and say it isn't important, but when it comes to my sobriety, it is important. I need to address my attitude, my clarity of mind and purpose, my motive and intent, and when this "It" is intruding in my life, is it for good or bad, or is it just there and a part of my journey. Does it even concern me or is there a lesson to be learned. There is so much that we can discount in our life as not important, but whose idea is that, my idea, my disease or my God's concept.

[BW]

For me that question "HOW IMPORTANT IS IT?" is not really a slogan...It is woven into the fabric of my being. Ever since reading it for the first time in the Big Book it seemed to jump off the page and slap me in the face. It has become one of the essential tools in my spiritual tool box. It is also important for me to remember the remainder of the question as it is written in the book.. "How important is it really compared to my serenity, to my emotional sobriety?"

Great topic SG...thanx for posting this one

[SunnyGirl]

((((( BW ))))

"How important is it really compared to my serenity, to my
emotional sobriety?"

It's a treasure having you back here on the boards
with us again! I'm going to make myself a sign and
put this quote where I can see it each day! Hugs, SG

[Lin]

Like SG I use this saying when I am wanting to make a mountain out of a molehill. It really helps me to not sweat the small stuff and to let it go before it becomes a full blown resentment.

Great topic!
LIN

[SunnyGirl]

Re: How Important is It?

There are times when a situation is "Very Important" and
just can't be taken lightly. I think we all have our own
"personal truths" but even those we need to measure our
reactions. I tend to think of Lin here and her saying....
"You could be right" and that's the end of the discussion!
Pushing to make others agree with me just doesn't work!
It's situations like this when my need to "fix" others comes
into play and I need to always remember, I am not the
"almighty fixer" and I need to let go and let GOD!

Have a wonderful day, SG