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Post by SunnyGirl on Aug 25, 2009 12:53:59 GMT -5
I can be my own worst enemy when it comes to trying to control a situation. Many years ago I heard Lin share about having a "plan A" and a "plan B" for most situations that come up. I tried this theory and have found it is always best to have that "plan B" just in case.
I may know just exactly how I'd like a problem or situation turn out and work hard at having it turn out that way. But, this doesn't always happen, no matter how hard I try to make it so. Many times I given the "plan B" solution to God, when I should have given the out come to HIM in the first place. HE may know how I want it to turn out, but He can also see around corners and say no to my requests, or "maybe" just not now.
No matter how difficult a situation I am facing seems at that time, I do know that it will pass. I have even looked back at some monumental messes and learned that "life goes on". The world didn't end and I learned from the situation and have grown up by facing it.
any thoughts on controlling outcomes in your life?
Peace on the journey, SunnyGirl
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Post by caressa on Aug 25, 2009 14:20:14 GMT -5
As they say, plan, but don't plan the outcome. It has been my experience, that God can see the whole picture and often when I view things, I learn that I have tunnel vision or turn a blind eye to something or blanket it with denial, especially if it is my own stuff that I need to look at.
Control is a "C" word for me and the best thing I can do is realize that the only thing I have any control over is my reaction and feelings towards a situation and often, the only way I have that control is when i turn things over to my Higher Power.
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Post by SunnyGirl on Aug 26, 2009 12:27:30 GMT -5
Thank you for sharing Caressa.....
The first step is about recognizing that I am powerless to control life and other people. When I worked the first step I had to admit I was powerless. Then I had to quit trying to control, or force an outcome! I had to let go, surrender, accept!
I have had to go back to step one many times through the years and all because of me trying to control a situation. The Serenity Prayer can be said over and over, but we have to feel it and put it to work daily in our lives....
Doing the best we can "One Day At a Time"..... Hugs, SG
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Post by SunnyGirl on Aug 27, 2009 12:22:12 GMT -5
At some point, you realize how much you want something to happen, at that very time you are fully aware, that it is beyond your conscious control to have it happen when you want it, the way you want it. This conception totally awed me! (I've been known to try to force that square peg into the round hole and it just doesn't work.)
There is a lot of tension in that. You can resolve this tension by pretending you can control something, by having a temper tantrum..... Or you can humbly accepting your lack of control over something that is very important to you.
Once again, you're back at Step One - admitting your stuckness, your powerlessness, your lack of control over things you'd so much want to be able to control.
OK God, I surrender! This is what my heart taught my head! Today I am going to trust my Higher Power with the outcome of all my problems.....
Peace on the journey, SunnyGirl
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Post by SunnyGirl on Aug 28, 2009 12:03:54 GMT -5
bump
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Post by Lin on Aug 30, 2009 7:04:44 GMT -5
I missed this one the first time aroudn. Thanks for bumping it up.
IT's cool that you have used my PLAN B idea. That REALLY helps me. I know I can't control a person or a situation. If that situation depends on another person.....especially my active alkie hubby...I have to have that Plan B jsut in case Plan A does not happen.
I used it yesterday. There was a movie I wanted to go see...a matinee. I asked him to think abotu it all morning while I was at work. I also decided if he did NOT want to go to that movie, I'd read some more chapters in my Twilight Book. I ended up with the book..but that was OK. I had 2 things I wanted to do PLANNEd and I made the second one happen.
It was an interesting idea that we sometimes work the Serenity prayer backwards....trying to control those things that are not ours to control....before we realize if they are even things that are within our control.
LIN
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Post by caressa on Aug 30, 2009 9:48:20 GMT -5
Well I planned to get my computer up and running and catching up and it didn't happen. There seems to be a problem with the connection to my monitor. Not sure what the problem is but had the same situation happening as I had before I took it to the shop. This morning I wiggled some wires and here I am back on line. I decided to give it one more try to find out the problem and even though I don't know what I did right, I am glad I took the initiative to try again.
Yesterday was a plan B for sure, I finished a book I was reading and read another one and finished it this morning.
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Post by SunnyGirl on Aug 30, 2009 14:54:13 GMT -5
Thank you for sharing....
Lin, your "plan b" has come in handy for me many times, I am definitely a believer......
Caressa, the old puter is running for now and guess that's the guarantee. Glad your are getting caught up on your reading, but it's been pretty quiet here lately...
Hugs to all.... SG
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Post by majestyjo on Aug 1, 2020 19:38:36 GMT -5
How many Imes we plan and things don't turn out the way we expected them. We feel let down, rejected, abandoned, etc yet it is us with the control issues trying to do our God's Will. It is us with the high expectations that need to be lowered.
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