Monday's Chip - Caring/Indifferent

[caressa]

The Al-Anon program teaches me to practice self-care. I didn't know what that was, didn't realize that I hadn't been doing it. What I realized was that I had done a lot of 'window dressing' but the actual caring of myself by eating healthy, exercise, getting proper sleep, doing regular meditations and taking time out for myself, wasn't always there.

I was so busy caught up in caring for others, giving to others and focusing on giving back that I didn't realize that I was ignoring my own health needs to be there for everyone else.

Before I was involved in meetings, service, and sponsoring, and now I am involved with my websites, sites of others and here, and I find myself the last couple of days on the computer just too much. Last night, with the time on the computer and doing laundry, every fiber of my body was screaming and I could hardly move. I went to bed at 8 p.m. with a pain pill (Tyenol Arthritis) and a heating pad not knowing what spot to put it on first. I get caught up and am indifferent to my own needs. Eat at irregular hours and my nights and days get turned around. Sometimes I feel as though i have no 'control' of my sleep but there lies the sickness. The stinking thinking that tells me I have the control. It is about turning things over to my Higher Power and practicing self-care, not obsessing about the computer or finishing one more page of my book and shutting things out because I want to do!

Perhaps I should just call this balance. Everything in moderation, yeah! One is good more is better!

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[SunnyGirl]

Caring/Indifferent

More times than not, I am on the caring side of this chip.
Sometimes, caring to much can cause me great pain and
I end up having to examine just what I am doing.

"Indifference may not wreck a man's life at any one turn,
but it will destroy him with a kind of dry-rot in the long run.
- - Bliss Carman

With me, anger can often times turn into indifference and
this leaves me with a feeling of being very cold and aloof.
Usually I can walk away from anger, when this happens it no
longer has anything to fuel the fire and it burns itself out.

Showing care and concern for those going through hard times
is a natural occurrence, or should be if we are human. Watching
the news about flood and earthquake victims, or thinking of
the families of those 4 cops that were killed in Seattle, makes
me sad beyond belief.

I believe as people, we were born with emotions and caring
about others is second nature. When we become indifferent
it's almost like a piece of us died and left us less human!

Peace on the journey, SunnyGirl

[Lin]

I am usually on the carin side of this chip. I try to be thoughtful and considerate. I try to be generous and kind. All of these words mean caring to me.

At church we have a giving tree. It has names on it and you pick a tag and buy a gift for a stranger. Last week I drew one for a 9 year old girl who wanted a chapter book and a coat. I bought 2 nice books and a beautiful suede carcoat from the mall. Then this week they had 3 tags left so I took another. This was a wal mart card for a family of 4. I bought a $300.00 gift card for that family. I have no idea who it is, but I want to help others and this year I am financially able. Who knows. Maybe next year I won't be able to be so generous.

Count me as CARING on this chip.

LIN

[majestyjo]

Like the quote SG. We think we are not harming others and disregard the harm we do ourselves. I was always my own worst enemy.

[caressa222]

Sometimes, I care too much. I end up enabling, and that does the other person more harm than good. We can't help others by softening their fall. If they don't land hard, they forget what it was like.

I don't like the word indifferent. I can acknowledge, but I don't have to rescue or save them from themselves.