Post by caressa on Dec 5, 2009 4:02:27 GMT -5
When I came into recovery, I didn't think I would ever be able to have fun or enjoy life again. How can I survive without using a drink or a drug to give me the courage to go to someone and ask them to dance, let alone get up on the dance floor.
How can I survive the holidays when everyone around me is drinking. I found that I couldn't be around those who were drinking when I was sober. After a certain hour, the noise level rose to a pitch that I didn't feel comfortable. I looked around and the actions of the people and thought, "Gee! Did I use to do that?" So much of it was false courage. I have had more fun at dances sober than I ever did when I was drinking. I even remembered what I did the night before.
After a few 24 Hours, I can be around people who are drinking socially. i.e. my bridge club. I have gone to a few places to listen to a live band and been around the alcohol and didn't drink. I had to come to realize it was an inanimate object until such a time as I chose to pick it up. Just because it was there, didn't mean I had to drink it.
The longer I stayed sober, the more I learned to enjoy the moment. To get the best out of each day. To enjoy the people in my life and be grateful for the little things. Those little blessings brightened up my day and if I got a chance to share it with someone else, I was truly blessed.
I don't need a quick fix. I don't need to go out to find that someone to make me happy.
How can I survive the holidays when everyone around me is drinking. I found that I couldn't be around those who were drinking when I was sober. After a certain hour, the noise level rose to a pitch that I didn't feel comfortable. I looked around and the actions of the people and thought, "Gee! Did I use to do that?" So much of it was false courage. I have had more fun at dances sober than I ever did when I was drinking. I even remembered what I did the night before.
After a few 24 Hours, I can be around people who are drinking socially. i.e. my bridge club. I have gone to a few places to listen to a live band and been around the alcohol and didn't drink. I had to come to realize it was an inanimate object until such a time as I chose to pick it up. Just because it was there, didn't mean I had to drink it.
The longer I stayed sober, the more I learned to enjoy the moment. To get the best out of each day. To enjoy the people in my life and be grateful for the little things. Those little blessings brightened up my day and if I got a chance to share it with someone else, I was truly blessed.
I don't need a quick fix. I don't need to go out to find that someone to make me happy.
. I will be back looking for Lin and others.